Does the Bible speak against marital rape? Yes… I think it’s hidden in Jesus’s teachings on divorce.
Content note: this post discusses purity culture, divorce and marital rape. EDITED TO ADD: I wrote this in 2021 as […]
Consent
I wrote a two-act stage-play about the prodigal son’s mother, step-mother and half-brother. Wanna read it?
People have asked about the prodigal son’s mother, but I’ve never heard anyone ask what Jesus’s parable would look like
Five things worth knowing about the woman in the city who ‘did not cry out’. On Deuteronomy 22:23–24 (and 25–27)
CONTENT WARNING for rape myths. Deuteronomy 22:23–24 has too often been used as a biblical precedent for one of the
“The sub is in control” — actually, this isn’t true and consent culture needs better words
CONTENT NOTE: This post discusses BDSM and violence against women.
“Be self-giving, not self-seeking” — but what if that’s the wrong marriage advice
I see the same essential marriage advice given time and time again: “be self-giving, not self-seeking”. Depending on who you
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Firelight, The church and consent
On consent for sex in the middle of the night
A video of this post is also available on Facebook. The middle of the night is not usually a good
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Sunlight, The church and consent
Why submission in the comp/egal debate is actually about boundaries (and warrants comparison with kink)
Complementarians, egalitarians and kinksters are three groups of people who all frequently talk about submission in the context of a
On wives ‘depriving’ their husbands of sex because she ‘doesn’t feel like it’
This post is a response to another Christian blogger who I hope you haven’t heard of. I’ve made two videos
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Sunlight, The church and consent
Consent means communicating if something’s not going to plan (in a context of mutual trust)
When it comes to sex, “consensual” isn’t the same as “no mistakes.” Sure, consensual means no big, life-changing mistakes. It
Sex and Consent: How does that work in a long-term relationship?
Photo credit: sasint from pixabay I originally wrote this post for abuse advocate Ashley Easter and you can find it
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Sunlight, The church and consent
On telling wives and girlfriends about their partner’s misogyny – please be careful
Photo credit: rawpixel on Pixabay The thought of getting your own back feels great. Some random guy sent you a
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“But if I have not consent…” A short poem about why consent is essential in sex
This post was inspired by 1 Corinthians 13:1–8, Paul’s famous passage about love. And now I will show you the
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Starlight, The church and consent
Endless Second: a brilliant and much-needed play about consent and reconciliation
So, I recently went to see a play called “Endless Second.” As with much theatre, especially niche works from emerging
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Consent in the arts, Moonlight
Remember that Deuteronomy 22 law where a girl marries her rapist? It’s not about marriage. Or sex.
Statue of Juliet, Verona. Photo by World of Magic on Unsplash. ‘Proud can I never be of what I
The lying abusers who pose as victims: lessons from Mr Wickham
Photo credit Julie Johnson on Unsplash Having recently grown in admiration for Jane Austen as an author, my husband and
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#metoo, Abuse dynamics, Consent in the arts, Firelight
10 uncomfortable realities in Morgan Freeman’s statement on sexual harassment
In the wake of the Harvey Weinstein allegations and the #MeToo movement, a story broke recently where eight women accused
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#metoo, Abuse dynamics, Firelight, Sex in the artsHolding someone by the throat: abusive strangulation or consensual play?
Following the allegations against Eric Schneiderman, I saw a cluster of articles a couple of weeks ago revolving around the
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BDSM, Moonlight
45 reasons why the culture behind #ChurchToo fails to understand consent
With the recent trending of the hashtag #ChurchToo, people are sharing their experiences of abuse in the church. Meanwhile, others
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#churchtoo, Abuse dynamics, Firelight, The church and consent, The church and exclusion
Always reforming: 95 statements on hope, sexuality and consent
It is 500 years to the day (well, sort of, if we don’t worry about the shift to the Gregorian
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Sunlight, The church and consent
Rethinking virginity: yes, it is about purity, but it’s not like a silk scarf
OK, first up: caveats. That tweet was in April. It’s now July. What I’m about to write is a mixture
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Moonlight, My faith
#ThatsHarassment: David Schwimmer makes six short videos showing sexual consent violations
With so much noise coming through my Twitter feed, and just the general busyness of life, it’s not uncommon for