For people who suffer marital abuse, divorce is a significant and important way for them to escape harm (or at […]
Gregoire, Grudem and grounds for divorce: why didn’t Jesus mention abuse? Read Post »
Firelight, Sex (and divorce) in the New Testament, The church and exclusion
I show how the CHAIRS acronym, which Eggerichs uses as a reference for respect, is more about self-importance than self-worth.
Why Love & Respect’s CHAIRS acronym isn’t about genuine respect Read Post »
Firelight, The church and consent
Content note: this post discusses purity culture, divorce and marital rape. EDITED TO ADD: I wrote this in 2021 as
CONTENT NOTE: This post discusses BDSM and violence against women.
CONTENT NOTE: This post discusses the dynamics of domestic abuse and victim-blaming. A few years ago I was volunteering for
On Dobson, domestic violence and DARVO dynamics Read Post »
#churchtoo, Abuse dynamics, Firelight, The church and consent, The church and exclusion
I shared this with a couple of people on Twitter and they said it helped them, so I figured I’d
8 things that got me through the worst time in my life (in 500 words) Read Post »
My faith, Starlight
Complementarians, egalitarians and kinksters are three groups of people who all frequently talk about submission in the context of a
I’m grateful to say that gun violence is something quite remote from my experience and everyday life. The UK has
Are your thoughts and prayers with … the system? Maybe they should be. Read Post »
Firelight, My faith, The church and hope
So, I recently went to see a play called “Endless Second.” As with much theatre, especially niche works from emerging
Endless Second: a brilliant and much-needed play about consent and reconciliation Read Post »
Consent in the arts, Moonlight
Photo credit Julie Johnson on Unsplash Having recently grown in admiration for Jane Austen as an author, my husband and
The lying abusers who pose as victims: lessons from Mr Wickham Read Post »
#metoo, Abuse dynamics, Consent in the arts, FirelightFollowing the allegations against Eric Schneiderman, I saw a cluster of articles a couple of weeks ago revolving around the
Holding someone by the throat: abusive strangulation or consensual play? Read Post »
BDSM, Moonlight
With the recent trending of the hashtag #ChurchToo, people are sharing their experiences of abuse in the church. Meanwhile, others
45 reasons why the culture behind #ChurchToo fails to understand consent Read Post »
#churchtoo, Abuse dynamics, Firelight, The church and consent, The church and exclusion
The moment when Buffy starts to fight back against her abusive ex-boyfriend Angel in the season 2 episode “Innocence” from
I think I need to grieve – what one year in a DV charity does to you Read Post »
My faith, Starlight
It is 500 years to the day (well, sort of, if we don’t worry about the shift to the Gregorian
Always reforming: 95 statements on hope, sexuality and consent Read Post »
Sunlight, The church and consent
One of the classic things about abuse is that when you’re going through it, you often don’t realise it’s abuse.
This is how it feels to call out abuse and not be believed Read Post »
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My greatest criticisms of both Fifty Shades and the 2017 version of Beauty and the Beast come down to how
Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 5: Hope and love) Read Post »
Redemption and Fifty Shades
With so much noise coming through my Twitter feed, and just the general busyness of life, it’s not uncommon for
So here’s the thing: you do not protect someone by faulting their behaviour and then trying to control them so
Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 2: Control) Read Post »
Moonlight, Redemption and Fifty ShadesHow does Christian Grey compare with Dan Stevens’ Beast? I’ve already blogged at length about Beast in the 1991 version
Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 1: Coercion) Read Post »
Moonlight, Redemption and Fifty Shades
With the launch of Fifty Shades Darker in cinemas, this guest post is just as relevant as it was when
I dated Christian Grey… and I don’t care to see him again (guest post) Read Post »
#churchtoo, 50 Shades, Abuse dynamics, BDSM, Firelight
I recently had the privilege of being able to guest post on the blog of Ashley Easter. She asked me
Sex and consent: everything I didn’t know when I married Read Post »
Sunlight, The church and consent
