Marriage is a safeguarding issue
It is my growing belief that the church cannot credibly defend marriage unless it grapples with the perils inherent in […]
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Are we the baddies? On Luther, anti-Semitism and how Christians can work on their blind spots
This is a personal reflection on how I became aware of some of my theological blind spots, and what the church didn’t tell me about Luther.
About doctrinal statements that I just can’t even with (and those that I can)
Sometimes it seems a statement of faithIs a state of unfaith,A badly built gateTo shut down debate. Christine Woolgar Maybe
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Firelight, My faith, The church and exclusion
Is sex without consent still sex?
Your answer will depend on what you think sex actually is. And you’d be surprised how many different definitions are
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#metoo, Firelight, The church and consent
Gregoire, Grudem and grounds for divorce: why didn’t Jesus mention abuse?
For people who suffer marital abuse, divorce is a significant and important way for them to escape harm (or at
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Firelight, Sex (and divorce) in the New Testament, The church and exclusion
Why Love & Respect’s CHAIRS acronym isn’t about genuine respect
I show how the CHAIRS acronym, which Eggerichs uses as a reference for respect, is more about self-importance than self-worth.
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Firelight, The church and consent
Everything wrong with the Nashville Statement: Article 01: the meaning of marriage
You remember the Nashville Statement, right? No? OK… Imagine Martin Luther in 1517 when he nailed his 95 theses to
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Firelight, The church and exclusion
Actually, sometimes it’s right to say ‘love your neighbour’ more often than ‘love God’
OK, so I know that deconstructing bad tweets on Christian Twitter is often a soul-destroying sport, but hey – this
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Firelight, The church and hope
I cannot believe the church’s responsibility is so small that we get to shrug and try better next time.
I don’t know about you, but I’ve seen some pretty horrific things passing through my social media feed the last
Potatoes and scandalzzz: what to make of Rachel Jankovic’s relentless book promotion?
Making a financial success of a new book is not an easy business in the age of the internet, especially
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Sunlight, The church and exclusion
On Dobson, domestic violence and DARVO dynamics
CONTENT NOTE: This post discusses the dynamics of domestic abuse and victim-blaming. A few years ago I was volunteering for
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#churchtoo, Abuse dynamics, Firelight, The church and consent, The church and exclusion
“Be self-giving, not self-seeking” — but what if that’s the wrong marriage advice
I see the same essential marriage advice given time and time again: “be self-giving, not self-seeking”. Depending on who you
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Firelight, The church and consent
On consent for sex in the middle of the night
A video of this post is also available on Facebook. The middle of the night is not usually a good
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Sunlight, The church and consent
What exactly is this ‘preaching’ MacArthur speaks of, that he says it’s categorically beyond all women?
John MacArthur was recently asked what he thought of Beth Moore. In addition to telling her to ‘go home’, he
On wives ‘depriving’ their husbands of sex because she ‘doesn’t feel like it’
This post is a response to another Christian blogger who I hope you haven’t heard of. I’ve made two videos
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Sunlight, The church and consent
Consent means communicating if something’s not going to plan (in a context of mutual trust)
When it comes to sex, “consensual” isn’t the same as “no mistakes.” Sure, consensual means no big, life-changing mistakes. It
Sex and Consent: How does that work in a long-term relationship?
Photo credit: sasint from pixabay I originally wrote this post for abuse advocate Ashley Easter and you can find it
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Sunlight, The church and consent
Are your thoughts and prayers with … the system? Maybe they should be.
I’m grateful to say that gun violence is something quite remote from my experience and everyday life. The UK has
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Firelight, My faith, The church and hope
“But if I have not consent…” A short poem about why consent is essential in sex
This post was inspired by 1 Corinthians 13:1–8, Paul’s famous passage about love. And now I will show you the
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Starlight, The church and consent
I heard a talk on penal substitutionary atonement; here’s what happened when I complained
You’ll get the most out of this post if you first read the previous one. Basically, I went to a
I heard a talk on penal substitutionary atonement; it tainted the ‘good’ in Good Friday
So, last week I heard a man in paid ministry explain why Good Friday is good. I took notes. I
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Firelight, The church and hope