Welcome to my blog.

I’m a Christian, a feminist and a person who’s positive about sex.

I blog about hope, sexuality and consent. 

And I am a critic of Fifty Shades of Grey.

Manga image of grey woman holding staff of Aaron with light showing her blue eyes
Extract from artwork created by Siku (@theartofsiku, www.TheArtOfSiku.com).

In this blog, I offer candid and informed perspectives on some of the grey and awkward areas of life. I grapple with uncomfortable topics like domestic violence, abuse and the phenomenon that is Fifty Shades of Grey. I also call out aspects of church culture that mar the message of hope that Christians should be embodying. Some of it makes uncomfortable reading, but all of it is offered to help you work your grey matter for yourself.

Currently posts fall into one of four categories: redemption (as portrayed in Beauty and the Beast and Fifty Shades), consent, sexuality, and faith. The links below will give the most recent posts within each of these categories. If you want to find out more about why I blog on these topics and see indexes of what you can expect to find, please use links in the menu above.

Thank you for visiting. If you like what you read, please feel free to share or to subscribe. The picture above was drawn by Siku. You can read more about that here: New profile picture: grey places and the art of Siku

Life outside Eden

Ruth and Boaz Bible
Ruth chapter 3 from the pocket New Jerusalem Bible

On sexual expression and gender – these posts are mainly about sex itself and what good looks like. You’ll also find some stuff here on BDSM including Why do I write about BDSM? I haven’t (yet) blogged much on gender and gendered issues – but when I do, this is where they’ll go.

The most popular posts in this section are:

Lines in the Sand

Do we draw lines or erode them?

On consent and boundaries – these posts talk about abuse and coercion in the context of a sexual relationship. There’s a lot about what bad looks like, including much on Fifty Shades. Even if this section isn’t for you, you might want to read Why do I write about 50 Shades? and/or Why do I write about BDSM?

The most popular posts in this section are:

Love in Eternity

Parable of the great banquet in Luke 14
Tapestry of the parable of the great banquet in Luke 14

On Faith hope and God – here you’ll also find some posts about my Christian walk, theology and the Bible. And sometimes I get creative too.

The most popular posts in this section are:

Redemption: Beautiful love or beastly suffering?

Books of the Fifty Shades trilogy with a DVD of Beauty and the Beast
I bought the special edition DVD when I was living in Germany. All my copies of Fifty Shades were bought from charity shops.

Redemption and Fifty Shades – these posts take an in-depth look at how redemption is portrayed in Beauty and the Beast and then makes comparisons with Fifty Shades. They’ve been grouped on their own because there are quite a few of them and because they touch on all three of the themes that I blog about. The series ended up being eighteen posts long, so you might want to start with A summary of how redemption in BATB compares with 50 Shades.