Welcome to my blog.

I’m a Christian, a feminist and a person who’s positive about sex.

I blog about hope, sexuality and consent. 

And I am a critic of Fifty Shades of Grey.

Manga image of grey woman holding staff of Aaron with light showing her blue eyes
Extract from artwork created by Siku (@theartofsiku, www.TheArtOfSiku.com).

I blog about ambiguous and awkward areas of life, where the lines aren’t always clear and some of the issues are taboo. It’s not always comfortable reading, but all of it is offered to help you work your grey matter for yourself. The story behind the picture above is here.

Thank you for visiting.

Sex worth celebrating

Wedding fascinators with the text "Advice on erotic excitement is often like saying a play will evoke greater anticipation if it has fancier costumes. Sure, that can open up possibilities, but it doesn't make theatre."

These posts are about sex itself and what good looks like. The most popular posts are:

Index page: Sex worth celebrating
Categories: Sex, Relationships, Consent

Towards equality

I write mainly about gender equality, but obviously gender isn’t the only dividing line. The most popular posts here are:

Index page: Towards equality
Categories: Equality, AmReading, Consent

Perspective on purity

White wedding shoes with the words Pure and Precious written on the inside

Depending on who you talk to, “purity” is either a wonderful word to describe a high concept, or a toxic word used to oppress people (most often women).

For myself, I believe that purity, when properly understood, is a good thing, but that ‘purity culture’ is a form of gender based violence. I also have a few ideas about what purity is really meant to be about – and my thinking and theology are still forming.

The most popular post in this section is:

Index page: Perspective on purity
Categories: Purity, Equality

50 Shades

Protest banner against 50 Shades "Not consent, not redemption, not a fairy-tale" with quotes from Fifty Shades Darker

These books are a problem. Even if this section isn’t for you, you might want to read Why do I write about 50 Shades?

The most popular posts in this section are:

Index page: 50 Shades
Categories: 50 Shades


Well, it’s hard to write about Fifty Shades without writing about BDSM. Even if this section isn’t for you, you might want to read Why do I write about BDSM? The posts here are primarily to help people recognise abuse (and some are written by people in the scene).

Index page: BDSM
Categories: BDSM, Consent

Delving theology

Old English Bible open at Isaiah

I love digging into the Bible and thinking about God. The most popular posts in this section are:

Index page: Delving theology
Categories: Bible, AmReading

Irritating evangelicalism

Extract from Oh Horrible Decree by Charles Wesley

I have various issues with evangelicalism as it currently manifests in the US and, to a lesser extent, in the UK. The most popular posts in this section are:

Index page: Irritating evangelicalism
Categories: EvangelicalismBible

Water for the soul

All Shall Be Well outside Norwich Cathedral

OK, posts in this section don’t tend to get many hits – but those who find them, love them. In particular:

Index page: Water for the soul
Categories: Thoughts

Creative works

I love to write. You’ll find poetry, sketches and short stories here.

Index page: Creative works
Categories: AmWriting, Poetry, Stories, Theatre

Redemption: Beautiful love or beastly suffering?

Books of the Fifty Shades trilogy with a DVD of Beauty and the Beast
I bought the special edition DVD when I was living in Germany.

These posts take an in-depth look at how redemption is portrayed in Beauty and the Beast and then makes comparisons with Fifty Shades. They’ve been grouped on their own because there are quite a few of them and because they touch on all three of the themes that I blog about. The series ended up being eighteen posts long, so you might want to start with A summary of how redemption in BATB compares with 50 Shades.

Index page: Fifty Shades compared with Beauty & the Beast
Categories: Redemption and Fifty Shades