About BDSM
Some of these posts are by me, others are from people in the scene.
- “The sub is in control” — actually, this isn’t true and consent culture needs better words
- Why submission in the comp/egal debate is actually about boundaries (and warrants comparison with kink)
- Holding someone by the throat: abusive strangulation or consensual play?
- Crimes against literature: Fifty Shades has 50 novel-writing mistakes (part 3)
- I dated Christian Grey… and I don’t care to see him again (guest post)
- 10 ways 50 Shades is like real-life abuse, not BDSM (part 3)
- 10 ways 50 Shades is like real-life abuse, not BDSM (part 2)
- 10 ways 50 Shades is like real-life abuse, not BDSM (part 1)
- A real-life rant about “command rape” in the BDSM scene (guest post)
- Why do I write about BDSM?
- What’s bad about “the worst” six slaps?
- 7 essential facts about consent (guest post)
- In a frenzied search for your Mr Grey? Read this. Now. (guest post)
- A message to S-Types – What you REALLY need to know
Intros to other worthwhile reads
Telling the difference between kink and abuse
YesMeansYes: What coercive people look for in a “No”
