BDSM

Why do I write about BDSM?


About BDSM (from inside the scene)

A message to S-Types – What you REALLY need to know

Seven essential facts about consent

A real-life rant about ‘command rape’ in the BDSM scene


About BDSM and consent (written by me)

“The sub is in control” — actually, this isn’t true and consent culture needs better words (Mar 2020)

Holding someone by the throat: abusive strangulation or consensual play? (May 2018)

What’s bad about “the worst” six slaps? (Talking about the end of Fifty Shades of Grey)

How 50 Shades reflects real life abuse in the BDSM scene: part 1, part 2 and part 3


Personal stories

In a frenzied search for your Mr Grey? Read this. Now.

I dated Christian Grey… and I don’t care to see him again (Feb 2017) (50 Shades related)

Woman standing arms folded in from of Christian Grey picture from 50 Fifty Shades Darker.


Intros to other worthwhile reads

Telling the difference between kink and abuse

YesMeansYes: What coercive people look for in a “No”