Is sex without consent still sex?
Your answer will depend on what you think sex actually is. And you’d be surprised how many different definitions are […]
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#metoo, Firelight, The church and consentAbuse dynamics
Does the Bible speak against marital rape? Yes… I think it’s hidden in Jesus’s teachings on divorce.
Content note: this post discusses purity culture, divorce and marital rape. EDITED TO ADD: I wrote this in 2021 as
What was the Hebrew word when David committed adultery and does it imply anything about Bathsheba’s consent?
TL;DR two different Hebrew phrases are used and no, neither one implies that Bathsheba consented. CONTENT WARNING this post discusses
Currency for closure? On vulnerability and storycraft in a #metoo world
I want to talk about something that’s been on my mind, particularly since the #metoo hashtag started trending back in
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#metoo, Abuse dynamics, Firelight, My faith
On Dobson, domestic violence and DARVO dynamics
CONTENT NOTE: This post discusses the dynamics of domestic abuse and victim-blaming. A few years ago I was volunteering for
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#churchtoo, Abuse dynamics, Firelight, The church and consent, The church and exclusion
The lying abusers who pose as victims: lessons from Mr Wickham
Photo credit Julie Johnson on Unsplash Having recently grown in admiration for Jane Austen as an author, my husband and
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#metoo, Abuse dynamics, Consent in the arts, Firelight
10 uncomfortable realities in Morgan Freeman’s statement on sexual harassment
In the wake of the Harvey Weinstein allegations and the #MeToo movement, a story broke recently where eight women accused
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#metoo, Abuse dynamics, Firelight, Sex in the arts
45 reasons why the culture behind #ChurchToo fails to understand consent
With the recent trending of the hashtag #ChurchToo, people are sharing their experiences of abuse in the church. Meanwhile, others
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#churchtoo, Abuse dynamics, Firelight, The church and consent, The church and exclusion
#ThatsHarassment: David Schwimmer makes six short videos showing sexual consent violations
With so much noise coming through my Twitter feed, and just the general busyness of life, it’s not uncommon for
I dated Christian Grey… and I don’t care to see him again (guest post)
With the launch of Fifty Shades Darker in cinemas, this guest post is just as relevant as it was when
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#churchtoo, 50 Shades, Abuse dynamics, BDSM, Firelight
Ruth and Joseph: A closer look at love vs abuse
This post is a writer’s-commentary on a sketch I wrote, based on two Bible stories: Joseph and Potiphar’s wife in
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#churchtoo, Firelight, Rape in the Old Testament, The church and consent