I know from personal experience how amazing sex and marriage can be. But I have also seen how much weight people, especially Christians, can put on the idea of everything should work.
Very often, the justification is down to a particular meaning attributed to marriage or sex, with supporting arguments lifted from the Bible. Except, I’m not sure all of those meanings actually hold, or that that these interpretations of the Bible stack up.
I’m not against marriage, but the church needs to unthink and rethink a lot of what we believe we know on this subject. And a lot of that will begin with more careful thought about sex itself.
Marriage, submission and ‘gender roles’
- Gregoire, Grudem and grounds for divorce: why didn’t Jesus mention abuse?
- Why Love & Respect’s CHAIRS acronym isn’t about genuine respect
- Everything wrong with the Nashville Statement: Article 01: the meaning of marriage
- I’m happily married, but I don’t wear my wedding ring. (And I have all kinds of feels.)
- “Be self-giving, not self-seeking” — but what if that’s the wrong marriage advice
- Why submission in the comp/egal debate is actually about boundaries (and warrants comparison with kink)
- Law not patriarchy: why submission isn’t the issue in Esther and Vashti’s stories
- Why do Methodist evangelicals insist that all sex outside marriage is ‘sexual immorality’? Because it’s not in the Bible.
- How the word ‘proxy’ helps me talk about equality
- When we don’t explain the Trinity, the gospel gets ugly (especially for wives)
- Priestesses in the church? Why CS Lewis’ argument was right, but his conclusion wrong
- Gary Thomas’ claim that Christians should have more children is unbiblical
LGBTQ+ inclusion
- But I’m a Cheerleader: The Musical. Fun, relevant and sex-positive. I’d pay to see it again.
- Some thoughts on being an asexual Christian married woman
- Everything wrong with the Nashville Statement: Article 01: the meaning of marriage
- Shameless about…? On hearing Nadia Bolz-Weber at Southwark Cathedral
- Evangelicals can’t sanitise Vicky Beeching’s conversion exorcism as badly worded prayers
- To stay or to go? On church, LGBT+ affirmation, and uncomfortable places
- The Orlando nightclub shooting: a challenge to non-LGBT Christians