Photo credit: rawpixel on Pixabay The thought of getting your own back feels great. Some random guy sent you a […]
On telling wives and girlfriends about their partner’s misogyny – please be careful Read Post »
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Photo credit Julie Johnson on Unsplash Having recently grown in admiration for Jane Austen as an author, my husband and
The lying abusers who pose as victims: lessons from Mr Wickham Read Post »
#metoo, Abuse dynamics, Consent in the arts, FirelightSo here’s the thing: you do not protect someone by faulting their behaviour and then trying to control them so
Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 2: Control) Read Post »
Moonlight, Redemption and Fifty Shades
With the launch of Fifty Shades Darker in cinemas, this guest post is just as relevant as it was when
I dated Christian Grey… and I don’t care to see him again (guest post) Read Post »
#churchtoo, 50 Shades, Abuse dynamics, BDSM, Firelight
I recently had the privilege of being able to guest post on the blog of Ashley Easter. She asked me
Sex and consent: everything I didn’t know when I married Read Post »
Sunlight, The church and consentHe strolls towards me until he’s standing in front of me. “What did you buy?” he whispers, and I know
Their Highnesses vs the Greys: Dreams and egos in the ballroom Read Post »
Redemption and Fifty Shades“He has a point, Christian. You’re very wealthy, and I’m bringing nothing to our marriage but my student loans.” Christian
Gollum vs Christian: Choice, commitment and consent (part 3) Read Post »
Redemption and Fifty ShadesJeez, I’m a quivering, mess, and he hasn’t even touched me. I squirm in my seat and meet his dark
Biedermann vs Christian: Choice, commitment and consent (part 2) Read Post »
Redemption and Fifty ShadesWhy am I even thinking about this? — Fifty Shades of Grey, p165 This is a mini-ish post in my series
Maurice vs Ana: Motivated by age, naiveté or love? Read Post »
Redemption and Fifty Shades“I think the reason why you love Beauty and the Beast so much is because it has such a strong
Redemption is beautiful love, not beastly suffering Read Post »
Redemption and Fifty Shades
I was recently asked if the idea of ‘the One’ was biblical and I decided to blog about it as
Is the One True Love biblical? On hope, choice and responsibility Read Post »
Sunlight, The Bible and hope
I recently wrote a post in which I mentioned that my husband and I went for psychosexual therapy (you can
To the evangelical couple considering sex therapy Read Post »
Sunlight, The church and consent
Photo credit: Toa Hefitba, Unsplash.com EDIT: this post is aimed at people who feel guilty about being pleasured. If you
On the receiving end of sex – why it’s not just about giving Read Post »
Sunlight, The church and consent
This post is a writer’s-commentary on a sketch I wrote, based on two Bible stories: Joseph and Potiphar’s wife in
Ruth and Joseph: A closer look at love vs abuse Read Post »
#churchtoo, Firelight, Rape in the Old Testament, The church and consent
(Ruth chapter 3 in my pocket New Jerusalem Bible, published by Darton, Longman and Todd) This is a drama sketch
Love vs Abuse: a drama sketch about Boaz and Ruth, Joseph and Potiphar’s wife Read Post »
Consent in the arts, My creativity, Rape in the Old Testament, StarlightI’m getting various search hits with people asking why 50 Shades is abusive, so I thought I would try and summarise the
Why do people say 50 Shades is (or isn’t) abusive? Read Post »
50 Shades, Moonlight
This is essential reading for the would-be Ana’s out there who are curious about BDSM (and for anyone looking to be
Newbie submissive-types – this is what you REALLY need to know in BDSM (guest post) Read Post »
BDSM, Moonlight
