“The sub is in control” — actually, this isn’t true and consent culture needs better words
CONTENT NOTE: This post discusses BDSM and violence against women.
S-types
Beast vs Christian Grey: The dark art of grooming
This Valentine’s DayForget the pastAnd slip into somethingA shade darker— Fifty Shades Darker – Official Trailer 1 (Universal Pictures) I’m
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Redemption and Fifty Shades10 ways 50 Shades is like real-life abuse, not BDSM (part 3)
“It’s not abuse, it’s BDSM.” Well, BDSM-ers disagree. This post is the third of three that lists some of the ways a
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50 Shades, BDSM, Moonlight10 ways 50 Shades is like real-life abuse, not BDSM (part 2)
“It’s not abuse, it’s BDSM.” *sigh* This post is the second of three that lists some of the ways a rant I
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50 Shades, BDSM, Moonlight10 ways 50 Shades is like real-life abuse, not BDSM (part 1)
One of the biggest myths spoken about 50 Shades of Grey is “It’s not abuse, it’s BDSM.” I recently read
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50 Shades, BDSM, MoonlightCoercion in BDSM negotiation is the road to “command rape”. A rant. (guest post)
This guest post is about abuse within the BDSM scene, particularly what the author calls “command rape”. It’s not a piece
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What’s bad about “the worst” six slaps?
At the end of 50 Shades of Grey, Ana asks Christian for the “worst” punishment. He hits her six times and stops. Was this bad or indeed the “worst”?
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50 Shades, BDSM, Moonlight7 essential facts about consent (guest post)
This piece of writing is a fantastic one-stop-shop about what consent really looks like. The BDSM-er who wrote it intended it more as a
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BDSM, MoonlightTo all newbie subs exploring BDSM: beware sub-frenzy (guest post)
When I think of women getting all excited about the idea of finding their personal dominant Christian Grey, I think of
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Newbie submissive-types – this is what you REALLY need to know in BDSM (guest post)
This is essential reading for the would-be Ana’s out there who are curious about BDSM (and for anyone looking to be
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