I’m a married Christian thirty-something, living in England, UK. I describe myself as a sex-positive theology nerd.
The image at the top of this page is what I would look like if I was a manga character. If you want to know a bit more about where that picture came from, it’s by Siku.
I’m also a borderline Aspie and a demisexual. Not heard that word before? Demisexual is a strand within asexuality, where a person doesn’t experience sexual attraction towards a person unless they’re in a strong emotional relationship with that person.
Things I enjoy in life include (in no particular order):
- Harry Potter,
- CS Lewis and JRR Tolkien,
- Alanis Morisette
- Star Trek and Babylon 5, theology, physics,
- Ghost in the Shell: Standalone Complex
- coffee and cake,
- playing the piano, singing,
- writing poetry,
- writing theatre, and
- going for long walks with my husband.
Oh, there are a few short videos of me playing the piano on YouTube — this one is my favourite.
When I was growing up I wanted to be an astronaut. I therefore chose science for my studies, but later decided that my efforts in life might be better spent trying to make the people on this planet get along better. Ever since I managed to land myself a boring desk job™, I’ve studied theology informally, along with other areas relevant to feminism and women’s equality.
I started to blog because, with the advent of Fifty Shades of Grey in cinemas in 2015, I wanted offer an informed Christian perspective on the issues it raises about consent, BDSM and purity culture. That desire was itself fuelled by my husband’s and my experience of needing psychosexual therapy when we married.
I was brought up in as an evangelical Anglican. Whilst I wouldn’t describe myself with either of those labels at the current time, I live with a sense of home-sickness for both, which never completely goes away. In some respects I have progressed very far from what I believed when I was younger, in others, I remain very orthodox.
The part of my faith that has surprised me most (not to mention others) has been my love of the Old Testament and the Pentateuch (the first five books of the Bible). I feel like I know and love Jesus best, not when I experience him as a companion, good friend or advocate, but rather as a wonderful teacher of the law. Maybe that will change in the future, but it’s where I’m at now and I’m done trying to hide it.
I also think that the church can learn from people who are outside of the church. Certainly, this was my experience when it came to consent. (And Christians really oughta know about consent!)
So, that’s me in a nutshell. Welcome to my blog. Do check out my other ‘about me’ pages for more specifics about how I work out my theology and my feminism in practice — and what that means for particular issues (and controversial topics). Also, check out the about my writing page to get a feel for what I write about, what other people have said about my writing and how to find the topics that interest you most.
You can find me on:
- YouTube (though I’m still undecided on how I’ll use YouTube, hence the eclectic mix of consent monologues with piano performances)