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TitleDateCategoriesTags
Dear Judge (a poem about Brett Kavanaugh)2018/10/17AmWriting, Consent and boundaries, Faith hope and God, Poetry, , , 2018-10-17 08:12:25
David’s story is no defence for male impunity (and Kavanaugh apologists need to know this)2018/10/17Bible, Consent and boundaries, , , 2018-10-17 08:07:08
The lying abusers who pose as victims: lessons from Mr Wickham2018/08/13Consent and boundaries, , 2018-08-13 20:02:36
Evangelicals can’t sanitise Vicky Beeching’s conversion exorcism as badly worded prayers2018/07/20Consent, Equality, Evangelicalism, , , 2018-07-20 07:45:05
When we don’t explain the Trinity, the gospel gets ugly (especially for wives)2018/07/09AmReading, Equality, , , , 2018-07-09 22:12:07
Whose values will I embody? On recent politics, St Paul, and Frozen.2018/06/23Thoughts, 2018-06-23 22:28:38
10 uncomfortable realities in Morgan Freeman’s statement on sexual harassment2018/06/05Consent and boundaries, Equality, , , 2018-06-05 13:15:54
Holding someone by the throat: abusive strangulation or consensual play?2018/05/28BDSM, Consent, , , 2018-05-28 19:15:22
Love: fire or fruit? Bishop Curry’s sermon was missing a person, IMHO2018/05/24Thoughts, , 2018-05-24 21:38:38
How do I handle non-responses on social media? Yeah, not great.2018/05/17Thoughts2018-05-17 22:14:16
To stay or to go? On church, LGBT+ affirmation, and uncomfortable places2018/04/23Equality, Thoughts, , 2018-04-23 20:13:51
O Precious Sight (by Vicky Beeching) – a contemplative video for Good Friday2018/03/30Poetry, Thoughts, , 2018-03-30 17:47:28
Priestesses in the church? Why CS Lewis’ argument was right, but his conclusion wrong2018/03/24Purity, , 2018-03-24 21:25:28
What exactly is a pledge? Exploring the types of commitment seen in the Bible2018/03/14Bible, Purity, , 2018-03-14 21:01:06
Crimes against literature: Fifty Shades has 50 novel-writing mistakes (part 3)2018/02/2650 Shades, AmReading, BDSM, , , 2018-02-26 21:55:07
Crimes against literature: Fifty Shades has 50 novel-writing mistakes (part 2)2018/02/2050 Shades, AmReading, , , 2018-02-20 06:59:05
Crimes against literature: Fifty Shades has 50 novel-writing mistakes (part 1)2018/02/0850 Shades, AmReading, , 2018-02-08 20:40:54
More than memories: why I am not afraid of losing our holiday to epilepsy2018/01/22Thoughts, , 2018-01-22 20:08:21
Books of 2017: Titles for those who are looking outside the box2018/01/17AmReading, Evangelicalism, Sex, , , , , 2018-01-17 14:26:23
Books of 2017: Titles of interest to theology lovers and Bible students2018/01/03AmReading, Bible, Evangelicalism, , , , 2018-01-03 20:00:15
Books of 2017: Titles of interest to egalitarian Christians2018/01/02AmReading, Equality, , , , , , 2018-01-02 19:53:42
Books of 2017: ‘The Twilight of Cutting’ taught me about more than FGM2018/01/01AmReading, Equality, , , 2018-01-01 19:19:15
45 reasons why the culture behind #ChurchToo fails to understand consent2017/11/28Consent, Evangelicalism, Sex, , , , , , 2017-11-28 21:10:23
I think I need to grieve – what one year in a DV charity does to you2017/11/19Equality, Thoughts, 2017-11-19 15:17:32
Good Gifts for Growing People: A sermon on Romans 12:1-82017/11/11Bible, , , 2017-11-11 13:25:08
Always reforming: 95 statements on hope, sexuality and consent2017/10/31Bible, Consent, Equality, Evangelicalism, Purity, Sex, , , , , , 2017-10-31 22:21:57
I always loved the Torah – and now I feel lied to (a complaint about translation)2017/10/07Bible, 2017-10-07 10:40:18
Why purity-as-separation undermines the church’s covenant calling2017/10/02Bible, Purity, , , 2017-10-02 08:56:36
A brain-dump about purity: this time, I think I really might change the world2017/09/28Bible, Equality, Purity, , , 2017-09-28 22:17:49
Modesty 101: Are dress codes helpful or harmful? — Ezer Rising2017/09/07Equality, Evangelicalism, , , , 2017-09-07 20:50:56
Inside the mental chaos of calling out abuse2017/08/24Spotlighting2017-08-24 21:50:48
Rethinking virginity: yes, it is about purity, but it’s not like a silk scarf2017/07/26Bible, Equality, Evangelicalism, Purity, , , , , 2017-07-26 21:04:01
How can we make church more inclusive spaces for ‘minorities’2017/07/21Equality, 2017-07-21 21:11:29
My greatest regrets are when I was trying to be someone I’m not2017/07/01Faith hope and God2017-07-01 18:19:56
An open letter to JK Rowling: nine things I can’t thank you enough for2017/06/30Faith hope and God, 2017-06-30 14:13:23
Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 5: Hope and love)2017/06/16Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , 2017-06-16 21:45:15
The Orlando nightclub shooting: a challenge to non-LGBT Christians2017/06/11Bible, Equality, , 2017-06-11 20:48:09
Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 4: Transformation)2017/05/25Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2017-05-25 21:33:11
Modesty 101: modesty is not about clothes, rather glory and context2017/05/23Bible, Equality, Evangelicalism, , , 2017-05-23 21:34:53
Gary Thomas’ claim that Christians should have more children is unbiblical2017/05/22Equality, Evangelicalism, , , 2017-05-22 21:24:27
Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 3: Guilt and shame)2017/05/03Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2017-05-03 19:34:30
Resurrection me: tasting future glory2017/04/22AmWriting, Poetry, , 2017-04-22 10:03:25
#ThatsHarassment: David Schwimmer makes six short videos showing sexual consent violations2017/04/17Consent, Equality, , 2017-04-17 14:32:00
Who breaks in and does the washing up? Strange stories and Easter2017/04/15Bible, Thoughts, 2017-04-15 23:58:51
Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 2: Control)2017/04/15Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , 2017-04-15 10:21:35
Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 1: Coercion)2017/04/06Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , 2017-04-06 23:43:22
Less was more: my (spoiler-free) review of the live-action Beauty and the Beast2017/03/18Equality, Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2017-03-18 15:13:27
10 things I hope Disney changes from the 1991 Beauty and the Beast2017/03/14Equality, , , 2017-03-14 22:21:49
50 Shades of Parody: Monsieur Gaston will see you now2017/03/0950 Shades, 2017-03-09 20:22:41
New profile picture: grey places and the art of Siku2017/02/25Thoughts, WorkTheGreyMatter, , , 2017-02-25 15:01:48
I dated Christian Grey… and I don’t care to see him again2017/02/1650 Shades, BDSM, Consent, Evangelicalism, Relationships, Sex, , , , , 2017-02-16 19:58:08
Reflections from standing outside the Fifty Shades Darker premiere2017/02/1050 Shades, Thoughts, , , 2017-02-10 21:08:31
Sex and consent: everything I didn’t know when I married2017/02/05Consent, Relationships, Sex, , , , 2017-02-05 18:06:34
The friend who was always there: on faithfulness, creativity and being me2017/01/22Thoughts, , 2017-01-22 19:19:03
A summary of how redemption in BATB compares with 50 Shades2017/01/03Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2017-01-03 10:38:56
Be a priest in 2017: Identify with those who are like and unlike you2017/01/02Bible, 2017-01-02 11:30:15
Revelation 22 for beginners (with illustrations from Harry Potter)2016/12/31Bible, Faith hope and God, 2016-12-31 18:06:50
Fairy-tale vs Erotica: Brides, wives and eternities2016/12/23Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , , 2016-12-23 22:51:55
Gaston vs Jack Hyde: Monsters, mirrors and mercy2016/12/15Redemption and Fifty Shades, 2016-12-15 21:49:56
Their Highnesses vs the Greys: Dreams and egos in the ballroom2016/12/08Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2016-12-08 22:22:21
Beast vs Christian: Control or change? Fixation or surrender?2016/12/01Redemption and Fifty Shades, 2016-12-01 19:46:24
Beast vs Christian: Wealthy givers of gifts and affection2016/11/24Redemption and Fifty Shades2016-11-24 20:02:53
Beast vs Christian: Shame, humiliation, judgement, knowledge.2016/11/17Redemption and Fifty Shades, 2016-11-17 20:37:36
Beast vs Christian: Rescuer, stalker, or masculinity-in-action?2016/11/10Redemption and Fifty Shades2016-11-10 19:11:24
Serving the marginalised: Glamour and honour in Luke 142016/11/05Bible2016-11-05 22:07:38
The Suffering Servant vs Ana: Choice, commitment and consent (part 4)2016/10/27Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , 2016-10-27 22:59:32
Gollum vs Christian: Choice, commitment and consent (part 3)2016/10/20Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2016-10-20 22:04:13
Biedermann vs Christian: Choice, commitment and consent (part 2)2016/10/13Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , 2016-10-13 22:48:24
Redemption vs Romance: Choice, commitment and consent (part 1)2016/10/06Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , , 2016-10-06 21:49:04
Music, perfection and play: shedding childhood shame2016/10/02Thoughts, , , , 2016-10-02 12:52:54
Beast vs Christian: The dark art of grooming2016/09/30Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , , , 2016-09-30 21:27:56
Maurice vs Ana: Motivated by age, naiveté or love?2016/09/22Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , 2016-09-22 22:16:02
Belle vs Ana: Privilege of position and identity2016/09/08Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , 2016-09-08 22:13:25
Belle vs Ana: Two embodiments of redeeming virtue?2016/09/01Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , 2016-09-01 21:29:20
Beast vs Christian: The Curse of plot-serving entitlement2016/08/25Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2016-08-25 21:50:56
An open letter to Nate Sparks on leaving evangelicalism2016/08/21Evangelicalism, , 2016-08-21 22:21:54
Beast vs Christian: The Fall that brings guilt and shame2016/08/18Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , 2016-08-18 21:57:36
Redemption is beautiful love, not beastly suffering2016/08/12Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , 2016-08-12 21:26:08
Is the One True Love biblical? On hope, choice and responsibility2016/07/21Bible, Relationships, , , , , , , 2016-07-21 22:01:33
What? A study on Nehemiah? And The Gospel Coalition wrote it?2016/07/09Bible, Evangelicalism, , , 2016-07-09 10:11:43
My choice in the wake of Orlando and Brexit2016/06/29Bible, Equality, , 2016-06-29 20:52:50
Year of Hell, Remember Nothing, & The Wish: lessons on hope2016/05/22Bible, , , 2016-05-22 15:19:44
The key to lifelong sex? Get the right advice.2016/05/19Sex2016-05-19 20:06:57
Welcoming the Holy Spirit2016/05/14AmWriting, Poetry, 2016-05-14 14:52:38
The Cedar of Lebanon2016/04/25AmWriting, Stories, 2016-04-25 22:10:25
How 50 Shades reflects real-life abuse in BDSM (part 3)2016/04/1450 Shades, BDSM, Consent, Relationships, , , , , , 2016-04-14 22:56:55
How 50 Shades reflects real-life abuse in BDSM (part 2)2016/04/1150 Shades, BDSM, Consent, Relationships, , , , , , 2016-04-11 19:52:58
How 50 Shades reflects real-life abuse in BDSM (part 1)2016/04/0750 Shades, BDSM, Consent, Relationships, , , , , , 2016-04-07 22:16:44
A real-life rant about “command rape” in the BDSM scene2016/04/07BDSM, , , , 2016-04-07 20:54:27
To the evangelical couple considering sex therapy2016/02/03Relationships, Sex, , , , , , , 2016-02-03 17:42:41
His name is John: Elizabeth writes to Mary2016/01/24AmWriting, Bible, Stories, , 2016-01-24 17:38:01
Esther in the Bible: surprisingly political2016/01/10AmReading, Bible, 2016-01-10 16:39:18
On the receiving end of sex – why it’s not just about giving2015/12/20Consent, Relationships, Sex, , , , 2015-12-20 14:25:51
Ruth and Joseph: A closer look at love vs abuse2015/12/06Bible, Equality, Relationships, , , , 2015-12-06 17:23:51
Love vs Abuse: two Bible stories you’ve not heard like this2015/12/06AmWriting, Bible, Consent, Theatre, , , 2015-12-06 17:21:54
The rebranded blog is here!2015/11/28WorkTheGreyMatter2015-11-28 15:28:34
Why do I write about 50 Shades?2015/11/2550 Shades, , 2015-11-25 21:51:21
Why do I write about BDSM?2015/11/24BDSM, 2015-11-24 21:57:04
Timing out – but not for long I hope2015/10/17WorkTheGreyMatter2015-10-17 12:36:07
EL James is Big Brother2015/08/3050 Shades, , 2015-08-30 17:45:29
The Honest 50 Shades trailer: oh so true!2015/06/1450 Shades, , , , , 2015-06-14 17:04:20
About the “steamy action” in 50-Shades-the-film2015/06/1450 Shades, , , , , 2015-06-14 17:00:25
What’s bad about “the worst” six slaps?2015/06/1450 Shades, Analysis, Consent, Relationships, , , , , , 2015-06-14 16:58:38
7 essential facts about consent2015/05/25BDSM, Consent, Relationships, Sex, , , 2015-05-25 08:05:12
A message to Muslim teens on 50 Shades2015/05/1050 Shades, Relationships, , , , , , 2015-05-10 22:03:21
Ana’s spin cycle – the most mundane description ever?2015/04/0850 Shades, AmReading, , 2015-04-08 10:25:17
50 Shades of Grey: A Christian(ity) angle on the film2015/04/0550 Shades, , , , , 2015-04-05 21:43:39
50 Shades of Wannabe2015/03/3150 Shades, Poetry, , , , 2015-03-31 21:41:56
Christian is creepy like John Travolta. Or have I got it all wrong?2015/03/0850 Shades, Consent, Relationships, , , 2015-03-08 19:31:54
Exercising control in all things2015/02/2250 Shades, 2015-02-22 17:49:28
Why do people say 50 Shades is (or isn’t) abusive?2015/02/2150 Shades, Consent, Relationships, Sex, , , , , , 2015-02-21 15:10:13
YesMeansYes: What coercive people look for in a “No”2015/02/17Consent, Relationships, , 2015-02-17 07:21:20
Fifty Shades Of Grey London premiere protests: Hot off the press2015/02/12WorkTheGreyMatter, , , 2015-02-12 22:17:01
In a frenzied search for your Mr Grey? Read this. Now.2015/02/10BDSM, , , 2015-02-10 21:49:28
The myth that love cures abuse2015/02/10Analysis, Consent and boundaries, , , , , 2015-02-10 21:14:08
Telling the difference between kink and abuse2015/02/10BDSM, Consent, Relationships, Sex, , , , 2015-02-10 19:45:40
“All consensual?” Jamie, can you REALLY say that?2015/02/0850 Shades, Consent, Consent and boundaries, , 2015-02-08 21:46:00
Jenny Trout: 50 Shades and abusive relationships2015/02/0850 Shades, Consent, Relationships, , , , , 2015-02-08 16:20:30
Is this really intellectual snobbery?2015/02/0850 Shades, AmReading, , , 2015-02-08 16:09:37
February 2015: 15 Reasons NOT to watch 50 Shades2015/02/0850 Shades, AmReading, , , 2015-02-08 13:23:48
It started as fan-fiction2015/02/0750 Shades, , , 2015-02-07 20:04:56
A message to S-Types – What you REALLY need to know2015/02/07Analysis, Consent and boundaries, , , 2015-02-07 15:59:23
Touched like a virgin2015/02/0750 Shades, Sex, , , 2015-02-07 15:18:18
Jenny Trout: On defending BDSM with 50 Shades2015/02/07Analysis, Consent and boundaries, , , , , , 2015-02-07 12:07:43
Jenny Trout: An open letter to 50 Shades of Grey fans and ardent defenders2015/02/0750 Shades, BDSM, Relationships, , , , 2015-02-07 11:33:38
Laci Green on 50 Shades2015/02/0750 Shades, BDSM, , , , , , , , 2015-02-07 11:10:40
Some anti-fanfic2015/02/0450 Shades, , , 2015-02-04 21:26:44
Fifty Shades of Frozen – Youtube trailer2015/01/3150 Shades, , 2015-01-31 17:17:56
Happy Birthday Website!2015/01/27WorkTheGreyMatter2015-01-27 17:48:31