| Marriage is a safeguarding issue | 2026/03/03 | Firelight, The church and consent | | 2026-03-03 16:52:39 |
| Kpop Demon Hunters as a masterclass on hope | 2026/02/26 | Hope in the arts, Sunlight | Hope | 2026-02-26 21:16:42 |
| An update on the last four years (and the next 12) | 2026/02/18 | My blogging, Starlight | WorkTheGreyMatter | 2026-02-18 22:05:37 |
| Are we the baddies? On Luther, anti-Semitism and how Christians can work on their blind spots | 2026/02/10 | The church and exclusion | Christianity, Theology | 2026-02-10 17:33:02 |
| How Jesus explains divorce and adultery (it’s about treachery, not sex) | 2025/08/19 | Firelight, Sex (and divorce) in the New Testament | Equality, Marriage, sex | 2025-08-19 16:09:58 |
| Was Deuteronomy written by Moses? | 2023/07/10 | Deuteronomy 22, Firelight, The Bible and other studies | deuteronomy | 2023-07-10 18:38:39 |
| But I’m a Cheerleader: The Musical. Fun, relevant and sex-positive. I’d pay to see it again. | 2022/06/15 | Firelight, Sex in the arts | LGBT, sex | 2022-06-15 07:45:58 |
| About doctrinal statements that I just can’t even with (and those that I can) | 2022/06/10 | Firelight, My faith, The church and exclusion | Bible, Christianity | 2022-06-10 22:00:02 |
| Is sex without consent still sex? | 2022/06/06 | #metoo, Firelight, The church and consent | | 2022-06-06 21:01:46 |
| Gregoire, Grudem and grounds for divorce: why didn’t Jesus mention abuse? | 2022/02/08 | Firelight, Sex (and divorce) in the New Testament, The church and exclusion | Abuse, Bible, Marriage | 2022-02-08 09:02:05 |
| Some thoughts on being an asexual Christian married woman | 2022/01/27 | My faith, Sunlight | Christianity, LGBT, sex | 2022-01-27 08:35:05 |
| Why Love & Respect’s CHAIRS acronym isn’t about genuine respect | 2022/01/02 | Firelight, The church and consent | Abuse, Christianity, Complementarianism, Egalitarianism, Equality, Marriage | 2022-01-02 16:30:38 |
| Children of prophecy and prayer in the Bible: which parent did God tell first? | 2021/12/05 | Sunlight, The Bible and other studies | Bible, Egalitarianism, Hope, Marriage | 2021-12-05 22:18:26 |
| Does the Bible speak against marital rape? Yes… I think it’s hidden in Jesus’s teachings on divorce. | 2021/10/31 | #churchtoo, Abuse dynamics, Firelight, Sex (and divorce) in the New Testament | Abuse, Bible, Consent, Marriage | 2021-10-31 14:27:44 |
| Paul’s letter to his prodigal daughter (and the paradigm shift hidden within 2 Corinthians 10–13) | 2021/10/21 | Moonlight, Sex (and divorce) in the New Testament, Virginity in the Old Testament | Bible, Christianity, Equality | 2021-10-21 18:33:32 |
| Proving My Virginity: Deuteronomy, Pap Smears, and the Hymen Myth | 2021/09/12 | Deuteronomy 22, Moonlight, Virginity in the Old Testament | Bible, Feminism, Purity | 2021-09-12 14:29:47 |
| I wrote a two-act stage-play about the prodigal son’s mother, step-mother and half-brother. Wanna read it? | 2021/08/29 | My creativity, Starlight, The Bible and other studies | Bible, Consent, Feminism, theatre, Theology | 2021-08-29 12:18:45 |
| Everything wrong with the Nashville Statement: Article 01: the meaning of marriage | 2021/06/23 | Firelight, The church and exclusion | Evangelicalism, LGBT, Marriage, Purity | 2021-06-23 07:56:07 |
| Transformation isn’t powered by love, but by a person. A few thoughts on the Holy Spirit (and my favourite Disney movie). | 2021/05/23 | Hope in the arts, Sunlight | atonement, Beauty and the Beast, Holy Spirit, Hope | 2021-05-23 08:38:29 |
| What was the Hebrew word when David committed adultery and does it imply anything about Bathsheba’s consent? | 2021/02/23 | #churchtoo, Abuse dynamics, Adultery in the Old Testament, Firelight | | 2021-02-23 18:25:08 |
| The prodigal and prostitutes – and the surprise gender-flip in Jesus’s parable | 2021/02/11 | Moonlight, Sex (and divorce) in the New Testament, Virginity in the Old Testament | Christianity, Feminism, Purity | 2021-02-11 22:56:36 |
| The six most satisfying decisions I made in 2020 | 2021/02/04 | My blogging, Starlight | WorkTheGreyMatter | 2021-02-04 19:11:42 |
| So what if Sarah didn’t wait on God? Choosing to act is not a sin. | 2020/10/29 | Sunlight, The Bible and hope | Bible, Hope | 2020-10-29 21:39:04 |
| I wrote a one act stage-play based on the biblical book of Esther – wanna read it? | 2020/10/16 | My creativity, Starlight | Bible, Books, Equality, Feminism, Theology | 2020-10-16 21:08:18 |
| “Why are you still a Christian? What keeps you in faith?” My answer when a friend asked me these questions | 2020/10/09 | My faith, Starlight | Bible, Church, Evangelicalism, Hope | 2020-10-09 13:05:48 |
| Remember Rizpah’s protest against King David? She achieved more than you know. | 2020/09/19 | Firelight, The Bible and other studies | Bible, Equality, Feminism | 2020-09-19 18:56:24 |
| Actually, sometimes it’s right to say ‘love your neighbour’ more often than ‘love God’ | 2020/09/14 | Firelight, The church and hope | Bible, Evangelicalism | 2020-09-14 21:10:33 |
| I cannot believe the church’s responsibility is so small that we get to shrug and try better next time. | 2020/06/17 | Firelight, My faith, The church and hope | Equality, Hope | 2020-06-17 18:45:41 |
| White Christians: don’t quote Ezekiel to duck responsibility for past and present racism | 2020/06/08 | Uncategorised | | 2020-06-08 18:46:13 |
| God is inclusive: in Deuteronomy, in Isaiah and in Acts (reflecting on the meaning of priesthood) | 2020/05/30 | Uncategorised | Egalitarianism, Hope, LGBT | 2020-05-30 22:33:22 |
| I’m happily married, but I don’t wear my wedding ring. (And I have all kinds of feels.) | 2020/05/20 | Uncategorised | Marriage, Purity | 2020-05-20 07:19:46 |
| Five things worth knowing about the woman in the city who ‘did not cry out’. On Deuteronomy 22:23–24 (and 25–27) | 2020/05/04 | Deuteronomy 22, Moonlight, Rape in the Old Testament | Bible, Consent, Feminism | 2020-05-04 12:00:35 |
| Currency for closure? On vulnerability and storycraft in a #metoo world | 2020/04/27 | #metoo, Abuse dynamics, Firelight, My faith | Equality, Feminism, Hope | 2020-04-27 12:38:02 |
| About me and my blog – April 2020 edition | 2020/04/21 | My blogging, Starlight | | 2020-04-21 17:11:27 |
| 1 Corinthians 15 for beginners: Part 4: transforming the perishable so as to inherit the imperishable (1 Cor 15:44-58) | 2020/04/13 | Sunlight, The Bible and hope | Bible, Hope, Resurrection | 2020-04-13 18:43:49 |
| 1 Corinthians 15 for beginners: Part 3: resurrection is about the body – but what does that actually mean? (1 Cor 15:35-43) | 2020/04/13 | Sunlight, The Bible and hope | Bible, Hope, Resurrection | 2020-04-13 18:42:32 |
| 1 Corinthians 15 for beginners: Part 2: resurrection as both a present and future event (1 Cor 15:12-34) | 2020/04/13 | Sunlight, The Bible and hope | Bible, Hope, Resurrection, Trinity | 2020-04-13 18:41:46 |
| 1 Corinthians 15 for beginners: Part 1: the legal case for Jesus’s resurrection from the dead (1 Cor 15:1-11) | 2020/04/13 | Sunlight, The Bible and hope | Bible, Egalitarianism, Hope, Resurrection | 2020-04-13 18:40:49 |
| Resurrection is the vindication of the body – and the only complete answer to rape culture | 2020/04/07 | Sunlight, The Bible and hope | Bible, Feminism, Hope, Purity, Resurrection | 2020-04-07 16:53:38 |
| Why am I making piano videos during a time of global crisis? | 2020/03/22 | My creativity, Starlight | Hope | 2020-03-22 19:47:20 |
| Five things I’d explain to a teenage girl if she asked about Deuteronomy 22:13-21 (assuming she has the courage to) | 2020/03/06 | Deuteronomy 22, Moonlight, Virginity in the Old Testament | Bible, Evangelicalism, Feminism, Fundamentalism, Purity | 2020-03-06 08:29:31 |
| “The sub is in control” — actually, this isn’t true and consent culture needs better words | 2020/03/03 | BDSM, Moonlight | Abuse, BDSM, Consent, Feminism, S-types | 2020-03-03 07:55:25 |
| Potatoes and scandalzzz: what to make of Rachel Jankovic’s relentless book promotion? | 2020/02/20 | Sunlight, The church and exclusion | Bible, Complementarianism, Egalitarianism, Exvangelical, Fundamentalism | 2020-02-20 13:37:38 |
| Isaiah 58:1-9a – adapted as a call to Christians who campaign | 2020/02/15 | Uncategorised | Bible, Hope | 2020-02-15 10:21:52 |
| On Dobson, domestic violence and DARVO dynamics | 2020/02/03 | #churchtoo, Abuse dynamics, Firelight, The church and consent, The church and exclusion | Abuse, Equality, Marriage | 2020-02-03 21:40:42 |
| “Be self-giving, not self-seeking” — but what if that’s the wrong marriage advice | 2020/01/16 | Firelight, The church and consent | Consent, Egalitarianism, Marriage, sex | 2020-01-16 13:14:04 |
| I’ve learnt that I can’t blog about virginity, without discussing violence | 2020/01/13 | My blogging, Starlight | Equality, Feminism | 2020-01-13 08:01:47 |
| Honour, not sex. Why applying Deuteronomy 22 is more complex than you thought. And why this matters. | 2020/01/10 | Adultery in the Old Testament, Deuteronomy 22, Moonlight, Rape in the Old Testament, Virginity in the Old Testament | Bible, Equality, Feminism, Purity | 2020-01-10 12:16:50 |
| sometimes I wonder… if Rachel Jankovic understands scandal (a response to her criticism of Kaitlin Shetler’s viral poem) | 2019/12/24 | Sunlight, The Bible and hope | Church, Complementarianism, Egalitarianism, Feminism, Hope | 2019-12-24 15:02:04 |
| How I used to interpret Deuteronomy 22:13-21, and how I explain it now (in fewer than 500 words) | 2019/11/25 | Deuteronomy 22, Moonlight, Virginity in the Old Testament | Bible, Church, Equality, Exvangelical, Feminism, Marriage, Purity | 2019-11-25 07:30:31 |
| About that virginity test in Deuteronomy 22: it’s not what you think | 2019/11/25 | Deuteronomy 22, Moonlight, Virginity in the Old Testament | Bible, Church, Equality, Exvangelical, Feminism, Marriage, Purity | 2019-11-25 07:30:21 |
| On consent for sex in the middle of the night | 2019/11/11 | Sunlight, The church and consent | Consent, Equality, Feminism, Marriage, sex | 2019-11-11 19:56:30 |
| 8 things that got me through the worst time in my life (in 500 words) | 2019/11/06 | My faith, Starlight | Abuse, Hope | 2019-11-06 18:19:58 |
| Why submission in the comp/egal debate is actually about boundaries (and warrants comparison with kink) | 2019/11/05 | BDSM, Firelight | Abuse, Complementarianism, Consent, Egalitarianism | 2019-11-05 08:37:30 |
| What exactly is this ‘preaching’ MacArthur speaks of, that he says it’s categorically beyond all women? | 2019/10/23 | Sunlight, The church and exclusion | Complementarianism, Egalitarianism, Evangelicalism, Exvangelical, Fundamentalism | 2019-10-23 11:45:43 |
| On wives ‘depriving’ their husbands of sex because she ‘doesn’t feel like it’ | 2019/10/17 | Sunlight, The church and consent | Bible, Consent, Egalitarianism, Feminism, Marriage, sex | 2019-10-17 18:43:26 |
| Consent means communicating if something’s not going to plan (in a context of mutual trust) | 2019/10/02 | Sunlight, The church and consent | Consent, Equality, Marriage, sex | 2019-10-02 21:27:12 |
| Why do I care so much about Old Testament laws? (And the rape laws in particular) | 2019/09/15 | Deuteronomy 22, Moonlight, My blogging, Rape in the Old Testament | Bible, Evangelicalism, Exvangelical, Feminism, Fundamentalism, Marriage | 2019-09-15 15:41:55 |
| Shameless about…? On hearing Nadia Bolz-Weber at Southwark Cathedral | 2019/08/27 | Firelight, My faith | Books, Church, LGBT, Marriage, Purity, Theology | 2019-08-27 14:58:38 |
| Sex and Consent: How does that work in a long-term relationship? | 2019/08/26 | Sunlight, The church and consent | Consent, Marriage, sex, Sex education | 2019-08-26 11:45:18 |
| Are your thoughts and prayers with … the system? Maybe they should be. | 2019/08/19 | Firelight, My faith, The church and hope | Abuse, Church, Hope | 2019-08-19 21:26:13 |
| Law not patriarchy: why submission isn’t the issue in Esther and Vashti’s stories | 2019/08/15 | Firelight, The Bible and other studies | | 2019-08-15 12:31:56 |
| On telling wives and girlfriends about their partner’s misogyny – please be careful | 2019/07/27 | Uncategorised | Consent, Feminism, Marriage, Relationships | 2019-07-27 11:04:56 |
| I met Sheila Gregoire! And we talked about sex, consent and blogging over ice cream. | 2019/07/25 | My faith, Starlight | Egalitarianism, Equality, Marriage | 2019-07-25 20:17:02 |
| Ever had a moment when you glimpsed how amazing Jesus is? I just had one. (Whilst studying Deuteronomy. I know, I’m weird) | 2019/07/20 | My faith, Starlight | Theology, Trinity | 2019-07-20 08:38:27 |
| “But if I have not consent…” A short poem about why consent is essential in sex | 2019/07/17 | Starlight, The church and consent | Bible, Consent, Equality, sex, Sex education | 2019-07-17 07:57:28 |
| Why do (some) evangelicals insist that all sex outside marriage is ‘sexual immorality’? Because it’s not in the Bible. | 2019/07/14 | Sex (and divorce) in the New Testament, Virginity in the Old Testament | Evangelicalism, Marriage | 2019-07-14 21:40:19 |
| “Just don’t do it” review: a zany swipe at abstinence culture — but can it find its audience? | 2019/07/11 | Moonlight, Sex in the arts | Church, Marriage | 2019-07-11 18:32:43 |
| Does Good Omens promote the Gospel? Not quite, but it comes close | 2019/07/09 | Firelight, Hope in the arts | Books, Fundamentalism, Hope | 2019-07-09 13:16:53 |
| Does Good Omens promote Satanism? Wow, OK, let’s talk about this. | 2019/07/09 | Firelight, Hope in the arts | Books, Fundamentalism | 2019-07-09 13:12:34 |
| Handle with care: how to approach Mark 9:42-49 | 2019/05/16 | Starlight, The Bible and hope | Bible | 2019-05-16 18:55:32 |
| I heard a talk on penal substitutionary atonement; here’s what happened when I complained | 2019/04/15 | Firelight, The church and hope | Church, Evangelicalism, Exvangelical | 2019-04-15 22:27:41 |
| I heard a talk on penal substitutionary atonement; it tainted the ‘good’ in Good Friday | 2019/04/15 | Firelight, The church and hope | Bible, Church, Evangelicalism, Hope | 2019-04-15 22:20:53 |
| About me and about my blog – April 2019 edition | 2019/04/12 | My blogging, Starlight | WorkTheGreyMatter | 2019-04-12 22:16:49 |
| Let’s talk about sarx! When Paul criticised ‘the flesh’ he wasn’t being body-negative | 2019/03/19 | Sex (and divorce) in the New Testament, Sunlight | Bible, Church, Hope, Resurrection, sex | 2019-03-19 22:10:15 |
| An open letter to group admins, from a borderline Aspie | 2019/03/14 | Uncategorised | Equality | 2019-03-14 20:34:50 |
| Dear Christians: non-conformity is not the path to transformation | 2019/03/12 | Sunlight, The church and hope | Bible, Church, Hope | 2019-03-12 20:43:07 |
| Dear Christians: Daniel is not the distinctive role model you think he is | 2019/03/05 | Sunlight, The church and hope | Bible, Church, Hope | 2019-03-05 20:11:57 |
| Endless Second: a brilliant and much-needed play about consent and reconciliation | 2019/01/22 | Consent in the arts, Moonlight | Abuse, Consent, sex | 2019-01-22 16:29:00 |
| An open letter to my pro-porn friend: ethic impossible? | 2018/12/10 | Moonlight, Sex in the arts | BDSM, Feminism, sex | 2018-12-10 16:00:30 |
| How the word ‘proxy’ helps me talk about equality | 2018/11/21 | Uncategorised | Bible, Egalitarianism, Feminism, Purity | 2018-11-21 21:05:41 |
| Remember that Deuteronomy 22 law where a girl marries her rapist? It’s not about marriage. Or sex. | 2018/11/13 | Deuteronomy 22, Moonlight, Rape in the Old Testament | Bible, Consent, Feminism, Purity | 2018-11-13 13:30:51 |
| The lying abusers who pose as victims: lessons from Mr Wickham | 2018/08/13 | #metoo, Abuse dynamics, Consent in the arts, Firelight | Abuse, Consent, Relationships, sex | 2018-08-13 20:02:36 |
| Evangelicals can’t sanitise Vicky Beeching’s conversion exorcism as badly worded prayers | 2018/07/20 | Firelight, The church and exclusion | Evangelicalism, Exvangelical, LGBT | 2018-07-20 07:45:05 |
| When we don’t explain the Trinity, the gospel gets ugly (especially for wives) | 2018/07/09 | Firelight, The church and exclusion, The church and hope | BDSM, Books, Church, Complementarianism, Egalitarianism, Marriage | 2018-07-09 22:12:07 |
| Whose values will I embody? On recent politics, St Paul, and Frozen. | 2018/06/23 | My faith, Starlight | Church, Exvangelical | 2018-06-23 22:28:38 |
| 10 uncomfortable realities in Morgan Freeman’s statement on sexual harassment | 2018/06/05 | #metoo, Abuse dynamics, Firelight, Sex in the arts | Consent, Equality, Feminism, sex | 2018-06-05 13:15:54 |
| Holding someone by the throat: abusive strangulation or consensual play? | 2018/05/28 | BDSM, Moonlight | Abuse, BDSM, Consent | 2018-05-28 19:15:22 |
| Love: fire or fruit? Bishop Curry’s sermon was missing a person, IMHO | 2018/05/24 | Uncategorised | Bible, Hope, LGBT | 2018-05-24 21:38:38 |
| To stay or to go? On church, LGBT+ affirmation, and uncomfortable places | 2018/04/23 | Firelight, The church and exclusion | Christianity, LGBT | 2018-04-23 20:13:51 |
| Priestesses in the church? Why CS Lewis’ argument was right, but his conclusion wrong | 2018/03/24 | Firelight, The church and exclusion | Bible, Christianity, Equality | 2018-03-24 21:25:28 |
| What exactly is a pledge? Exploring the types of commitment seen in the Bible | 2018/03/14 | Sunlight, The Bible and other studies | Bible, Christianity, Church | 2018-03-14 21:01:06 |
| Crimes against literature: Fifty Shades has 50 novel-writing mistakes (part 3) | 2018/02/26 | 50 Shades, Moonlight | 50 Shades, Books, Literature | 2018-02-26 21:55:07 |
| Crimes against literature: Fifty Shades has 50 novel-writing mistakes (part 2) | 2018/02/20 | 50 Shades, Moonlight | 50 Shades, Books, Literature | 2018-02-20 06:59:05 |
| Crimes against literature: Fifty Shades has 50 novel-writing mistakes (part 1) | 2018/02/08 | 50 Shades, Moonlight | 50 Shades, Books, Literature | 2018-02-08 20:40:54 |
| More than memories: why I am not afraid of losing our holiday to epilepsy | 2018/01/22 | My faith, Starlight | Chronic illness, Epilepsy, Exvangelical | 2018-01-22 20:08:21 |
| Books of 2017: Titles for those who are looking outside the box | 2018/01/17 | Uncategorised | Books, Church, Equality, Evangelicalism, Exvangelical, Purity, sex | 2018-01-17 14:26:23 |
| Books of 2017: Titles of interest to theology lovers and Bible students | 2018/01/03 | Uncategorised | Bible, Books, Church, Evangelicalism, Hope, Theology | 2018-01-03 20:00:15 |
| Books of 2017: Titles of interest to egalitarian Christians | 2018/01/02 | Uncategorised | Books, Egalitarianism, Equality, Evangelicalism, Feminism, Marriage, Purity | 2018-01-02 19:53:42 |
| Books of 2017: ‘The Twilight of Cutting’ taught me about more than FGM | 2018/01/01 | Uncategorised | Books, Equality, Feminism, FGM | 2018-01-01 19:19:15 |
| 45 reasons why the culture behind #ChurchToo fails to understand consent | 2017/11/28 | #churchtoo, Abuse dynamics, Firelight, The church and consent, The church and exclusion | Abuse, ChurchToo, Consent, Equality, Evangelicalism, Exvangelical, sex | 2017-11-28 21:10:23 |
| I think I need to grieve – what one year in a DV charity does to you | 2017/11/19 | My faith, Starlight | Abuse, Equality | 2017-11-19 15:17:32 |
| Good Gifts for Growing People: A sermon on Romans 12:1-8 | 2017/11/11 | Uncategorised | Bible, Christianity, Church, Equality | 2017-11-11 13:25:08 |
| Always reforming: 95 statements on hope, sexuality and consent | 2017/10/31 | Sunlight, The church and consent | Abuse, Bible, Christianity, Church, Consent, Hope, Purity, sex | 2017-10-31 22:21:57 |
| I always loved the Torah – and now I feel lied to (a complaint about translation) | 2017/10/07 | Uncategorised | Bible, Christianity | 2017-10-07 10:40:18 |
| Why purity-as-separation undermines the church’s covenant calling | 2017/10/02 | Uncategorised | Bible, Christianity, Church, Purity | 2017-10-02 08:56:36 |
| A brain-dump about purity: this time, I think I really might change the world | 2017/09/28 | Firelight, The church and hope | Christianity, Church, Equality, Hope | 2017-09-28 22:17:49 |
| This is how it feels to call out abuse and not be believed | 2017/08/24 | Uncategorised | Abuse | 2017-08-24 21:50:48 |
| Rethinking virginity: yes, it is about purity, but it’s not like a silk scarf | 2017/07/26 | Moonlight, My faith | Christianity, Church, Consent, Equality, Hope, Purity | 2017-07-26 21:04:01 |
| How can we make churches more inclusive spaces | 2017/07/21 | Uncategorised | Christianity, Church | 2017-07-21 21:11:29 |
| My greatest regrets are when I was trying to be someone I’m not | 2017/07/01 | My faith, Starlight | Hope | 2017-07-01 18:19:56 |
| Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 5: Hope and love) | 2017/06/16 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | Abuse, Christianity, Hope | 2017-06-16 21:45:15 |
| The Orlando nightclub shooting: a challenge to non-LGBT Christians | 2017/06/11 | Uncategorised | Bible, Christianity | 2017-06-11 20:48:09 |
| Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 4: Transformation) | 2017/05/25 | Moonlight, Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, Beauty and the Beast, Romance | 2017-05-25 21:33:11 |
| Modesty 101: modesty is not about clothes, rather glory and context | 2017/05/23 | Sunlight, The Bible and other studies, The church and consent | Bible, Christianity, Feminism, Modesty | 2017-05-23 21:34:53 |
| Gary Thomas’ claim that Christians should have more children is unbiblical | 2017/05/22 | Uncategorised | Bible, Christianity, Evangelicalism, Feminism | 2017-05-22 21:24:27 |
| Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 3: Guilt and shame) | 2017/05/03 | Moonlight, Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, Beauty and the Beast, Hope | 2017-05-03 19:34:30 |
| Resurrection me: tasting future glory (a poem) | 2017/04/22 | My creativity, Starlight | Christianity, Hope, Resurrection | 2017-04-22 10:03:25 |
| #ThatsHarassment: David Schwimmer makes six short videos showing sexual consent violations | 2017/04/17 | #metoo, Abuse dynamics, Consent in the arts, Firelight | Abuse, Consent, sex, Sex education | 2017-04-17 14:32:00 |
| Who breaks in and does the washing up? Strange stories and Easter | 2017/04/15 | Sunlight, The Bible and hope | Bible, Christianity | 2017-04-15 23:58:51 |
| Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 2: Control) | 2017/04/15 | Moonlight, Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, Abuse, Beauty and the Beast, Relationships | 2017-04-15 10:21:35 |
| Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 1: Coercion) | 2017/04/06 | Moonlight, Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, Abuse, Beauty and the Beast, Consent | 2017-04-06 23:43:22 |
| Less was more: my (spoiler-free) review of the live-action Beauty and the Beast | 2017/03/18 | Hope in the arts, Moonlight | 50 Shades, Beauty and the Beast, Romance | 2017-03-18 15:13:27 |
| 10 things I hope Disney changes from the 1991 Beauty and the Beast | 2017/03/14 | Hope in the arts, Moonlight | Beauty and the Beast, Consent, Feminism | 2017-03-14 22:21:49 |
| 50 Shades of Parody: Monsieur Gaston will see you now | 2017/03/09 | 50 Shades, Moonlight, Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, Humour | 2017-03-09 20:22:41 |
| New profile picture: grey places and the art of Siku | 2017/02/25 | My blogging, Starlight | 50 Shades, Bible, Christianity, WorkTheGreyMatter | 2017-02-25 15:01:48 |
| I dated Christian Grey… and I don’t care to see him again (guest post) | 2017/02/16 | #churchtoo, 50 Shades, Abuse dynamics, BDSM, Firelight | 50 Shades, Abuse, BDSM, Christianity, Consent, Relationships, sex | 2017-02-16 19:58:08 |
| Reflections from standing outside the Fifty Shades Darker premiere | 2017/02/10 | 50 Shades, My faith, Starlight | 50 Shades, Christianity, Consent, Feminism | 2017-02-10 21:08:31 |
| Sex and consent: everything I didn’t know when I married | 2017/02/05 | Sunlight, The church and consent | Abuse, Consent, Marriage, Relationships, sex, Sex education | 2017-02-05 18:06:34 |
| The friend who was always there: on faithfulness, creativity and being me | 2017/01/22 | My creativity, My faith, Starlight | Bible, Christianity, Literature | 2017-01-22 19:19:03 |
| A summary of how redemption in BATB compares with 50 Shades | 2017/01/03 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, Abuse | 2017-01-03 10:38:56 |
| Be a priest in 2017: Identify with those who are like and unlike you | 2017/01/02 | Uncategorised | Bible, Equality | 2017-01-02 11:30:15 |
| Revelation 22 for beginners (with illustrations from Harry Potter) | 2016/12/31 | Sunlight, The Bible and hope | Bible, Hope | 2016-12-31 18:06:50 |
| Fairy-tale vs Erotica: Brides, wives and eternities | 2016/12/23 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, Christianity, Literature, Marriage, Romance | 2016-12-23 22:51:55 |
| Gaston vs Jack Hyde: Monsters, mirrors and mercy | 2016/12/15 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, Abuse | 2016-12-15 21:49:56 |
| Their Highnesses vs the Greys: Dreams and egos in the ballroom | 2016/12/08 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, Relationships, Romance | 2016-12-08 22:22:21 |
| Beast vs Christian: Control or change? Fixation or surrender? | 2016/12/01 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, Abuse | 2016-12-01 19:46:24 |
| Beast vs Christian: Wealthy givers of gifts and affection | 2016/11/24 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades | 2016-11-24 20:02:53 |
| Beast vs Christian: Shame, humiliation, judgement, knowledge. | 2016/11/17 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades | 2016-11-17 20:37:36 |
| Beast vs Christian: Rescuer, stalker, or masculinity-in-action? | 2016/11/10 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | | 2016-11-10 19:11:24 |
| Serving the marginalised: Glamour and honour in Luke 14 | 2016/11/05 | Uncategorised | Bible | 2016-11-05 22:07:38 |
| The Suffering Servant vs Ana: Choice, commitment and consent (part 4) | 2016/10/27 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | BDSM, Bible, Christianity | 2016-10-27 22:59:32 |
| Gollum vs Christian: Choice, commitment and consent (part 3) | 2016/10/20 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, Abuse, Relationships | 2016-10-20 22:04:13 |
| Biedermann vs Christian: Choice, commitment and consent (part 2) | 2016/10/13 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | Abuse, Literature, Relationships, Romance | 2016-10-13 22:48:24 |
| Redemption vs Romance: Choice, commitment and consent (part 1) | 2016/10/06 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, Abuse, Christianity, Consent, Romance | 2016-10-06 21:49:04 |
| Music, perfection and play: shedding childhood shame | 2016/10/02 | My creativity, My faith, Starlight | Abuse, Hope | 2016-10-02 12:52:54 |
| Beast vs Christian Grey: The dark art of grooming | 2016/09/30 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, Abuse, BDSM, Consent, S-types, Sex education | 2016-09-30 21:27:56 |
| Maurice vs Ana: Motivated by age, naiveté or love? | 2016/09/22 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, Relationships, Romance | 2016-09-22 22:16:02 |
| Belle vs Ana: Privilege of position and identity | 2016/09/08 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, Abuse, Consent | 2016-09-08 22:13:25 |
| Belle vs Ana: Two embodiments of redeeming virtue? | 2016/09/01 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | Abuse, Feminism, Romance | 2016-09-01 21:29:20 |
| Beast vs Christian: The Curse of plot-serving entitlement | 2016/08/25 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, BDSM | 2016-08-25 21:50:56 |
| An open letter to Nate Sparks on leaving evangelicalism | 2016/08/21 | Firelight, The church and exclusion | Bible, Christianity, Evangelicalism | 2016-08-21 22:21:54 |
| Beast vs Christian: The Fall that brings guilt and shame | 2016/08/18 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, Abuse, BDSM, Literature | 2016-08-18 21:57:36 |
| Redemption is beautiful love, not beastly suffering | 2016/08/12 | Redemption and Fifty Shades | 50 Shades, Relationships, Romance | 2016-08-12 21:26:08 |
| Is the One True Love biblical? On hope, choice and responsibility | 2016/07/21 | Sunlight, The Bible and hope | Bible, Christianity, Evangelicalism, Hope, Marriage, Relationships, Romance | 2016-07-21 22:01:33 |
| What? A study on Nehemiah? And The Gospel Coalition wrote it? | 2016/07/09 | Firelight, The church and hope | Bible, Christianity, Equality, Evangelicalism | 2016-07-09 10:11:43 |
| My choice in the wake of Orlando and Brexit | 2016/06/29 | Uncategorised | Bible, Christianity, LGBT | 2016-06-29 20:52:50 |
| Year of Hell, Remember Nothing, & The Wish: lessons on hope | 2016/05/22 | Hope in the arts, Sunlight, The Bible and hope | Bible, Christianity, Literature | 2016-05-22 15:19:44 |
| The key to lifelong sex? Get the right advice. | 2016/05/19 | Sunlight, The church and consent | sex | 2016-05-19 19:06:57 |
| Welcoming the Holy Spirit (a short liturgy) | 2016/05/14 | Uncategorised | | 2016-05-14 14:52:38 |
| The Cedar of Lebanon (a short story) | 2016/04/25 | My creativity, Starlight | Bible, Hope | 2016-04-25 22:10:25 |
| 10 ways 50 Shades is like real-life abuse, not BDSM (part 3) | 2016/04/14 | 50 Shades, BDSM, Moonlight | 50 Shades, Abuse, BDSM, Consent, D-types, S-types, sex | 2016-04-14 22:56:55 |
| 10 ways 50 Shades is like real-life abuse, not BDSM (part 2) | 2016/04/11 | 50 Shades, BDSM, Moonlight | 50 Shades, Abuse, BDSM, Consent, D-types, S-types, sex | 2016-04-11 19:52:58 |
| 10 ways 50 Shades is like real-life abuse, not BDSM (part 1) | 2016/04/07 | 50 Shades, BDSM, Moonlight | 50 Shades, Abuse, BDSM, Consent, D-types, S-types, sex | 2016-04-07 22:16:44 |
| Coercion in BDSM negotiation is the road to “command rape”. A rant. (guest post) | 2016/04/07 | BDSM, Moonlight | Abuse, BDSM, Consent, D-types, S-types | 2016-04-07 20:54:27 |
| To the evangelical couple considering sex therapy | 2016/02/03 | Sunlight, The church and consent | Bible, Christianity, Marriage, Relationships, sex, Sex education | 2016-02-03 17:42:41 |
| The book of Esther: surprisingly political – a review of Esther in Ancient Jewish Thought by Aaron Koller | 2016/01/10 | Sunlight, The Bible and other studies | Bible, Books, Christianity | 2016-01-10 16:39:18 |
| On the receiving end of sex – why it’s not just about giving | 2015/12/20 | Sunlight, The church and consent | Marriage, Relationships, sex, Sex education | 2015-12-20 14:25:51 |
| Ruth and Joseph: A closer look at love vs abuse | 2015/12/06 | #churchtoo, Firelight, Rape in the Old Testament, The church and consent | Abuse, Bible, Christianity, Consent, Relationships | 2015-12-06 17:23:51 |
| Love vs Abuse: a drama sketch about Boaz and Ruth, Joseph and Potiphar’s wife | 2015/12/06 | Consent in the arts, My creativity, Rape in the Old Testament, Starlight | Abuse, Bible, Consent, Relationships | 2015-12-06 17:21:54 |
| Why do I write about the Fifty Shades trilogy? | 2015/11/25 | 50 Shades, Moonlight, My blogging | 50 Shades, BDSM, Bible | 2015-11-25 21:51:21 |
| Why do I write about BDSM? | 2015/11/24 | BDSM, Moonlight, My blogging | BDSM | 2015-11-24 21:57:04 |
| About the “steamy action” in 50-Shades-the-film | 2015/06/14 | 50 Shades, Moonlight | BDSM, Consent, Feminism, Sex education | 2015-06-14 17:00:25 |
| What’s bad about “the worst” six slaps? | 2015/06/14 | 50 Shades, BDSM, Moonlight | 50 Shades, Abuse, BDSM, Consent, D-types, S-types, sex | 2015-06-14 16:58:38 |
| 7 essential facts about consent (guest post) | 2015/05/25 | BDSM, Moonlight | BDSM, Consent, D-types, S-types, sex | 2015-05-25 08:05:12 |
| Ana’s spin cycle – the most mundane description of an orgasm ever? | 2015/04/08 | 50 Shades, Moonlight | 50 Shades, Books, Literature | 2015-04-08 10:25:17 |
| In FSOG chapter 12, Christian can’t know that Ana welcomes his actions. That’s what makes his actions creepy. | 2015/03/08 | 50 Shades, Moonlight | 50 Shades, Consent, sex | 2015-03-08 19:31:54 |
| Why do people say 50 Shades is (or isn’t) abusive? | 2015/02/21 | 50 Shades, Moonlight | Abuse, BDSM, Consent, D-types, Relationships, sex | 2015-02-21 15:10:13 |
| To all newbie subs exploring BDSM: beware sub-frenzy (guest post) | 2015/02/10 | BDSM, Moonlight | Abuse, BDSM, Consent, S-types | 2015-02-10 21:49:28 |
| Is it intellectual snobbery to say Fifty Shades is badly written? | 2015/02/08 | 50 Shades, Moonlight | 50 Shades, Books, Literature | 2015-02-08 16:09:37 |
| Newbie submissive-types – this is what you REALLY need to know in BDSM (guest post) | 2015/02/07 | BDSM, Moonlight | BDSM, Relationships, S-types | 2015-02-07 15:59:23 |
| Women who’ve never had sex or an orgasm need to know that Ana’s first orgasm is utter fiction | 2015/02/07 | 50 Shades, Moonlight, Sex in the arts | 50 Shades, sex, Sex education | 2015-02-07 15:18:18 |
| Happy Birthday Website! | 2015/01/27 | My blogging, Starlight | WorkTheGreyMatter | 2015-01-27 17:48:31 |
