I recently had the privilege of being able to guest post on the blog of Ashley Easter. She asked me to write about how I understand consent – what it is and what it isn’t. Over 5,500 words later (and more hours than I counted) the essay was complete. I hadn’t meant for it to be that long, but it roughly breaks down into three segments:
- Understanding sex and consent in context
- Giving and receiving consent
- Bad consent and withdrawing consent
I will repost the contents of it on this blog in a few months time, but meanwhile I wanted to post this picture. It’s a zoomed-out version of the full essay and everything highlighted in red is something my husband and I didn’t know when we married. Seriously!
The full post is on Ashley’s blog here: Sex and consent: How does that work in marriage? and reposted (with very minor edits) on my blog here: Sex and Consent: How does that work in a long-term relationship?
I changed the title because I haven’t written just about consent in marriage, though I do acknowledge that as the context from which I’m writing.
Hi, is there somewhere I else I can find the images above? They are not clear enough for me to read even when I zoom them out. I’m craving the reality of what you and your husband learned (that is apparently captured in them)!
The full text of the essay is here (though it’s not red lettered to show which bits we learned and which we didn’t – but suffice to say we learned a lit since we married!) https://www.workthegreymatter.com/sex-consent-long-term-relationship/