Purity culture and ‘honour’ based violence, plus topics like BDSM or erotica.
So here’s the thing: you do not protect someone by faulting their behaviour and then trying to control them so […]
Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 2: Control) Read Post »
Moonlight, Redemption and Fifty ShadesHow does Christian Grey compare with Dan Stevens’ Beast? I’ve already blogged at length about Beast in the 1991 version
Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 1: Coercion) Read Post »
Moonlight, Redemption and Fifty Shades
The live-action Beauty and the Beast isn’t a redemptive fairy-tale any more; it’s a high-fantasy romance. And I hate to
Less was more: my (spoiler-free) review of the live-action Beauty and the Beast Read Post »
Hope in the arts, Moonlight
The release of the live-action Beauty and the Beast is barely a few days away. If you’ve read any of my
10 things I hope Disney changes from the 1991 Beauty and the Beast Read Post »
Hope in the arts, Moonlight
(This is a rip-off of the opening chapter of Fifty Shades of Grey where Ana goes to interview Christian Grey at his head
50 Shades of Parody: Monsieur Gaston will see you now Read Post »
50 Shades, Moonlight, Redemption and Fifty Shades“It’s not abuse, it’s BDSM.” Well, BDSM-ers disagree. This post is the third of three that lists some of the ways a
10 ways 50 Shades is like real-life abuse, not BDSM (part 3) Read Post »
50 Shades, BDSM, Moonlight“It’s not abuse, it’s BDSM.” *sigh* This post is the second of three that lists some of the ways a rant I
10 ways 50 Shades is like real-life abuse, not BDSM (part 2) Read Post »
50 Shades, BDSM, MoonlightOne of the biggest myths spoken about 50 Shades of Grey is “It’s not abuse, it’s BDSM.” I recently read
10 ways 50 Shades is like real-life abuse, not BDSM (part 1) Read Post »
50 Shades, BDSM, MoonlightThis guest post is about abuse within the BDSM scene, particularly what the author calls “command rape”. It’s not a piece
Coercion in BDSM negotiation is the road to “command rape”. A rant. (guest post) Read Post »
BDSM, MoonlightIt was just gone midday on the 21st January 2015. The previous evening I’d decided that it was worth doing a blog
Why do I write about the Fifty Shades trilogy? Read Post »
50 Shades, Moonlight, My bloggingBDSM stands for: Bondage and discipline, domination and submission, sadism and masochism. I want to get something straight right at
Why do I write about BDSM? Read Post »
BDSM, Moonlight, My bloggingOK, I want to throw my two cents in when it comes to the portrayal of sex in the film of
About the “steamy action” in 50-Shades-the-film Read Post »
50 Shades, Moonlight
At the end of 50 Shades of Grey, Ana asks Christian for the “worst” punishment. He hits her six times and stops. Was this bad or indeed the “worst”?
What’s bad about “the worst” six slaps? Read Post »
50 Shades, BDSM, MoonlightThis piece of writing is a fantastic one-stop-shop about what consent really looks like. The BDSM-er who wrote it intended it more as a
7 essential facts about consent (guest post) Read Post »
BDSM, MoonlightIn some respects Lord of the Rings was wasted on me when I first read it. I was after action and
Ana’s spin cycle – the most mundane description of an orgasm ever? Read Post »
50 Shades, MoonlightOK, I confess. I was all up for writing a piece about consent and victim blaming and the difference between
I’m getting various search hits with people asking why 50 Shades is abusive, so I thought I would try and summarise the
Why do people say 50 Shades is (or isn’t) abusive? Read Post »
50 Shades, MoonlightWhen I think of women getting all excited about the idea of finding their personal dominant Christian Grey, I think of
To all newbie subs exploring BDSM: beware sub-frenzy (guest post) Read Post »
BDSM, MoonlightOne of the common complaints about 50 Shades is that it’s badly written. Jamie Dornan was quoted in the Guardian as
Is it intellectual snobbery to say Fifty Shades is badly written? Read Post »
50 Shades, Moonlight
This is essential reading for the would-be Ana’s out there who are curious about BDSM (and for anyone looking to be
Newbie submissive-types – this is what you REALLY need to know in BDSM (guest post) Read Post »
BDSM, MoonlightThis post is about a problem I have in chapter 8 of 50 Shades of Grey, which is that it is
