Black and white drawing of a man being fired from his job and leaving the building. Text on black background: The six most satisfying decisions I made in 2020 (#4 commissioning this artwork)

The six most satisfying decisions I made in 2020

I want to remember some of the positive things that came out of 2020. 

Disclaimer: I’m sharing this post because giving myself permission to do these things was a big deal for me; maybe my story will encourage other people. But I wasn’t living under a rock. I know I was lucky to be able to invest in myself in these ways. Investing in other people was also a big priority in 2020 – it’s just not one I want to blog about. 

Here are the six most satisfying decisions I made in 2020 (not necessarily in order).

Decision #1: Starting singing lessons

In Christmas 2019 I thought it might be fun to record my favourite carol: O Come, O Come, Emmanuel. Recording my voice has long been a dream of mine. I even bought a pre-amp before I had any microphones to plug into it. 

Anyway, by 2019 I had my mac, GarageBand and a Røde microphone – and knew how to connect them. So, I recorded myself. 

It sounded rubbish. 

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Manga image of grey woman holding staff of Aaron with light showing her blue eyes

About me and about my blog – April 2019 edition

Extract from artwork created by Siku (@theartofsiku,

I updated my ‘About Me’ page. It won’t be the last time, but here’s what it now says:

I’m actually quite a shy person.

But once I’m talking, I’ll tell it as it is. I’ll say the words that aren’t being said, I’ll delve the topics that are too taboo and I’ll throw out challenges for people to wrestle with.

As for this blog, it’s a space where I write at the edges of ideas that relate to hope, sexuality and consent. I want to lean into the grey places where people haven’t yet distilled their thoughts or figured out where they want to stand. I’ll disentangle complexities and dare to re-open questions where the standard answers now seem incomplete.

In practical terms, that means I write about:

  • sex and portrayals of sex,
  • consent and consent culture,
  • purity and purity culture,
  • inclusion and transformation,
  • bodies and personhood,
  • the Bible and Christian witness.

I approach these topics as a Christian and a feminist, but also with a listening ear to the sex-positive community.  

Make no mistake, I hold a high view of the Bible and believe it to be inspired, so I ground my perspective there. However, I don’t think the Bible can be understood without – at least in some sense – recognising it is literature. I also think that the church can learn from people who are outside of the church. Certainly, this was my experience when it came to consent.

And Christians really oughta know about consent! Continue reading About me and about my blog – April 2019 edition

Grey woman with the staff of Aaron, art by Siku

New profile picture: grey places and the art of Siku

Extract from artwork created by Siku, @theartofsiku

If you’ve spent time on Facebook or other social media, you’ve probably seen one of those alerts telling you that a friend has changed their profile picture. You may also have noticed that some friends never seem to change their picture – and others seem to change it every week.

For myself, I’m someone who prefers to choose a picture and stick with it. But a few days ago I updated my Twitter profile and today I’ve made a similar change on this blog. Here’s why…
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The rebranded blog is here!

So… I’ve just given the blog of a new look, but more significantly it’s got a redefined focus. Yes, I’ll still be blogging about that grey area, 50 Shades, but thinking bigger too.

There are (or will be) three main themes of this blog:

Lines in the sand – on consent and boundaries

Life outside Eden – on sexual expression and gender

Love in eternity – on faith, hope and God

If you like what I write, you can also now follow me on Twitter: @hope4greyplaces

Fifty Shades Of Grey London premiere protests: Hot off the press

The campaign 50 Shades Is Domestic Abuse was at the London premiere this evening. Read all about it:

Some great pics here: Fifty Shades of Grey protesters claim the movie glamorises domestic violence | Daily Mail Online.

Natalie Collins from 50shadesisdomesticabuse gives her views in a short video here: Fifty Shades Of Grey premiere: Domestic abuse campaigners protest on film’s opening night – WATCH – Mirror Online.

This one has Natalie Collins’ as well as Dakota Johnson’s views on whether the film promotes abuse: 50 Shades of Grey London premiere gets domestic violence protest group – Movies News – Digital Spy.

An interview with Natalie Collins modelling her eye-catching t-shirt (I’d love to say sexy t-shirt, but that might be stretching the truth!): Fifty Shades glamourises abuse, say campaigners | Christian News on Christian Today.