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Unmeaning marriage

I know from personal experience how amazing marriage can be. But I have also seen how much weight people, especially Christians, can put on the idea of marriage and how marriages should work.

Very often, the justification is down to a particular meaning attributed to marriage, with supporting arguments lifted from the Bible. Except, I’m not sure all of those meanings actually hold, or that that these interpretations of the Bible stack up.

I’m not against marriage, but the church needs to unthink and rethink a lot of what we believe we know on this subject.

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When we don’t explain the Trinity, the gospel gets ugly (especially for wives) (Jul 2018)

Book The Meaning of Marriage Tim and Kathy Keller

Priestesses in the church? Why CS Lewis’ argument was right, but his conclusion wrong (Mar 2018)

Priestesses In the Church essay title by CS Lewis

Why do Methodist evangelicals insist that all sex outside marriage is ‘sexual immorality’? Because it’s not in the Bible. (July 2019)

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Why submission in the comp/egal debate is actually about boundaries (and warrants comparison with kink) (Nov 2019)

Picture of a branch with a bright red rope around it, tying a double coin knot, with the words: Why submission in the comp/egal debate is actually about boundaries (and warrants comparison with kink) workthegreymatter.com

45 reasons why the culture behind #ChurchToo fails to understand consent

Candles surrounding the cross in Norwich Cathedral

Gary Thomas’ claim that Christians should have more children is unbiblical (May 2017)

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How the word ‘proxy’ helps me talk about equality (Nov 2018)