“Be self-giving, not self-seeking” — but what if that’s the wrong marriage advice

I see the same essential marriage advice given time and time again: “be self-giving, not self-seeking”. Depending on who you listen to, and in what context, the message ranges from the quite helpful to the incredibly toxic. It can push for balance and mutuality — if both spouses seek the other’s wellbeing, then both will … Continue reading “Be self-giving, not self-seeking” — but what if that’s the wrong marriage advice