Index of posts

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I categorise posts by topic but also into four ‘light’ categories to help you have a feel for what to expect and whether it’s inside or outside your comfort zone: sunlight, firelight, moonlight and starlight.

TitleDateCategoriesTags
Wait, what if Rizpah’s protest against King David shaped the laws of Deuteronomy?2020/09/19Bible worth reading, Firelight, , 2020-09-19 18:56:24
Actually, sometimes it’s right to say ‘love your neighbour’ more often than ‘love God’2020/09/14Atonement and inclusion, Firelight, 2020-09-14 21:10:33
Cancel culture: how it works, what it does, plus four useful examples to have at your fingertips2020/07/06Abuse dynamics, Firelight, , 2020-07-06 18:22:07
I cannot believe the church’s responsibility is so small that we get to shrug and try better next time.2020/06/17Atonement and inclusion, Firelight, 2020-06-17 18:45:41
White Christians: don’t quote Ezekiel to duck responsibility for past and present racism2020/06/08Atonement and inclusion, Firelight, 2020-06-08 18:46:13
God is inclusive: in Deuteronomy, in Isaiah and in Acts (reflecting on the meaning of priesthood)2020/05/30Hope worth sharing, Sunlight, , 2020-05-30 22:33:22
I’m happily married, but I don’t wear my wedding ring. (And I have all kinds of feels.)2020/05/20Firelight, Unmeaning marriage, 2020-05-20 07:19:46
Five things worth knowing about the woman in the city who ‘did not cry out’. On Deuteronomy 22:23-24 (and 25-27)2020/05/04Moonlight, Virginity, honour and violence, , 2020-05-04 12:00:35
Currency for closure? On vulnerability and storycraft in a #metoo world2020/04/27Hope worth sharing, Sunlight, , 2020-04-27 12:38:02
About me and my blog – April 2020 edition2020/04/21Starlight, WorkTheGreyMatter2020-04-21 17:11:27
1 Corinthians 15 for beginners: Part 4: transforming the perishable so as to inherit the imperishable (1 Cor 15:44-58)2020/04/13Hope worth sharing, Sunlight, , 2020-04-13 18:43:49
1 Corinthians 15 for beginners: Part 3: resurrection is about the body – but what does that actually mean? (1 Cor 15:35-43)2020/04/13Hope worth sharing, Sunlight, , 2020-04-13 18:42:32
1 Corinthians 15 for beginners: Part 2: resurrection as both a present and future event (1 Cor 15:12-34)2020/04/13Hope worth sharing, Sunlight, , , 2020-04-13 18:41:46
1 Corinthians 15 for beginners: Part 1: the legal case for Jesus’s resurrection from the dead (1 Cor 15:1-11)2020/04/13Hope worth sharing, Sunlight, , , 2020-04-13 18:40:49
Resurrection is the vindication of the body – and the only complete answer to rape culture2020/04/07Hope worth sharing, Sunlight, , , , 2020-04-07 16:53:38
Why am I making piano videos during a time of global crisis?2020/03/22Creative works, Starlight2020-03-22 19:47:20
Five things I’d explain to a teenage girl if she asked about Deuteronomy 22:13-21 (assuming she has the courage to)2020/03/06Moonlight, Virginity, honour and violence, , , , 2020-03-06 08:29:31
“The sub is in control” — actually, this isn’t true and consent culture needs better words2020/03/03BDSM, Moonlight, , , , 2020-03-03 07:55:25
Potatoes and scandalzzz: what to make of Rachel Jankovic’s relentless book promotion?2020/02/20Hope worth sharing, Sunlight, , , , 2020-02-20 13:37:38
Isaiah 58:1-9a (remix) – a call to Christians who campaign2020/02/15Bible, Creative works, Starlight, 2020-02-15 10:21:52
On Dobson, domestic violence and DARVO dynamics2020/02/03Abuse dynamics, Firelight, , 2020-02-03 21:40:42
“Be self-giving, not self-seeking” — but what if that’s the wrong marriage advice2020/01/16Firelight, Unmeaning marriage, , , 2020-01-16 13:14:04
I’ve learnt that I can’t blog about virginity, without discussing violence2020/01/13Personal reflections, Starlight, Virginity, honour and violence, 2020-01-13 08:01:47
Honour, not sex. Why applying Deuteronomy 22 is more complex than you thought. And why this matters.2020/01/10Bible, Moonlight, Virginity, honour and violence, , , 2020-01-10 12:16:50
sometimes I wonder… if Rachel Jankovic understands scandal (a response to her criticism of Kaitlin Shetler’s viral poem)2019/12/24Hope worth sharing, Sunlight, , , , 2019-12-24 15:02:04
How I used to interpret Deuteronomy 22:13-21, and how I explain it now (in fewer than 500 words)2019/11/25Bible, Moonlight, Virginity, honour and violence, , , , , 2019-11-25 07:30:31
About that virginity test in Deuteronomy 22: it’s not what you think2019/11/25Bible, Moonlight, Virginity, honour and violence, , , , , 2019-11-25 07:30:21
On consent for sex in the middle of the night2019/11/11Sex worth celebrating, Sunlight, , , , 2019-11-11 19:56:30
8 things that got me through the worst time in my life (in 500 words)2019/11/06Personal reflections, Starlight, 2019-11-06 18:19:58
Why submission in the comp/egal debate is actually about boundaries (and warrants comparison with kink)2019/11/05BDSM, Firelight, Unmeaning marriage, , , 2019-11-05 08:37:30
What exactly is this ‘preaching’ MacArthur speaks of, that he says it’s categorically beyond all women?2019/10/23Bible, Hope worth sharing, Sunlight, , , , 2019-10-23 11:45:43
On wives ‘depriving’ their husbands of sex because she ‘doesn’t feel like it’2019/10/17Sex worth celebrating, Sunlight, , , , , 2019-10-17 18:43:26
Consent means… *communicating* if something’s not going to plan (in a context of mutual trust)2019/10/02Sex worth celebrating, Sunlight, , , 2019-10-02 21:27:12
Why do I care so much about the Old Testament rape laws?2019/09/15Bible, Moonlight, Virginity, honour and violence, , , , 2019-09-15 15:41:55
Shameless about…? On hearing Nadia Bolz-Weber at Southwark Cathedral2019/08/27Atonement and inclusion, Firelight, , , , , 2019-08-27 14:58:38
Sex and Consent: How does that work in a long-term relationship?2019/08/26Sex worth celebrating, Sunlight, , , 2019-08-26 11:45:18
Are your thoughts and prayers with … the system? Maybe they should be.2019/08/19Personal reflections, Starlight, , 2019-08-19 21:26:13
Law not patriarchy: why submission isn’t the issue in Esther and Vashti’s stories2019/08/15Bible, Bible worth reading, Sunlight2019-08-15 12:31:56
On telling wives and girlfriends about their partner’s misogyny – please be careful2019/07/27Abuse dynamics, Firelight, , , 2019-07-27 11:04:56
I met Sheila Gregoire! And we talked about sex, consent and blogging over ice cream.2019/07/25Personal reflections, Starlight, , 2019-07-25 20:17:02
Ever had a moment when you glimpsed how amazing Jesus is? I just had one. (Whilst studying Deuteronomy. I know, I’m weird)2019/07/20Bible, Personal reflections, Starlight, 2019-07-20 08:38:27
But if I have not consent… (a poem inspired by 1 Corinthians 13:1-8)2019/07/17Creative works, Sex worth celebrating, Sunlight, , , , 2019-07-17 07:57:28
Why do Methodist evangelicals insist that all sex outside marriage is ‘sexual immorality’? Because it’s not in the Bible.2019/07/14Bible, Firelight, Unmeaning marriage, 2019-07-14 21:40:19
“Just don’t do it” review: a zany swipe at abstinence culture — but can it find its audience?2019/07/11Art or licence?, Moonlight, 2019-07-11 18:32:43
Does Good Omens promote the Gospel? Not quite, but it comes close2019/07/09AmReading, Atonement and inclusion, Bible, Firelight, 2019-07-09 13:16:53
Does Good Omens promote Satanism? Wow, OK, let’s talk about this.2019/07/09AmReading, Atonement and inclusion, Bible, Firelight2019-07-09 13:12:34
To my egalitarian friends: please don’t hate on the Old Testament law (or at least, not on my blog)2019/06/04Bible, Bible worth reading, Sunlight, 2019-06-04 15:04:04
Handle with care: how to approach Mark 9:42-492019/05/16Bible, Delving theology, Starlight2019-05-16 18:55:32
I heard a talk on penal substitutionary atonement; here’s what happened when I complained2019/04/15Atonement and inclusion, Firelight, Spotlighting, , 2019-04-15 22:27:41
I heard a talk on penal substitutionary atonement; it tainted the ‘good’ in Good Friday2019/04/15Atonement and inclusion, Bible, Firelight, , , 2019-04-15 22:20:53
About me and about my blog – April 2019 edition2019/04/12Personal reflections, Starlight, WorkTheGreyMatter2019-04-12 22:16:49
Flesh: what Paul meant when he used the word ‘sarx’ (Psst! — he wasn’t being sex-negative)2019/03/19Bible, Bible worth reading, Sunlight, , , , 2019-03-19 22:10:15
An open letter to group admins, from a borderline Aspie2019/03/14Personal reflections, Starlight2019-03-14 20:34:50
Dear Christians: non-conformity is not the path to transformation2019/03/12Bible, Hope worth sharing, Sunlight, , 2019-03-12 20:43:07
Dear Christians: Daniel is not the distinctive role model you think he is2019/03/05Bible, Hope worth sharing, Sunlight, , 2019-03-05 20:11:57
Endless Second: a brilliant and much-needed play about consent and reconciliation2019/01/22Art or licence?, Moonlight, , 2019-01-22 16:29:00
Skandalon: Mary teaches the boy Jesus2018/12/29Creative works, Starlight, , 2018-12-29 08:46:18
This is not a defence of Ezer Rising; it’s a lament over evangelicalism2018/12/18Firelight, , 2018-12-18 20:19:09
An open letter to my pro-porn friend: ethic impossible?2018/12/10Art or licence?, BDSM, Moonlight, , 2018-12-10 16:00:30
How the word ‘proxy’ helps me talk about equality2018/11/21Firelight, Unmeaning marriage, , , 2018-11-21 21:05:41
Let’s talk about that Deuteronomy 22 law where a girl marries her rapist. Because it’s not about marriage or sex.2018/11/13Bible, Moonlight, Virginity, honour and violence, , , 2018-11-13 13:30:51
Dear Judge (a poem about Brett Kavanaugh)2018/10/17Creative works, Starlight, , 2018-10-17 08:12:25
David’s story is no defence for male impunity (and Kavanaugh apologists need to know this)2018/10/17Abuse dynamics, Bible, Firelight, , 2018-10-17 08:07:08
The lying abusers who pose as victims: lessons from Mr Wickham2018/08/13Abuse dynamics, Firelight, , , 2018-08-13 20:02:36
Evangelicals can’t sanitise Vicky Beeching’s conversion exorcism as badly worded prayers2018/07/20Atonement and inclusion, Firelight, , 2018-07-20 07:45:05
When we don’t explain the Trinity, the gospel gets ugly (especially for wives)2018/07/09AmReading, Firelight, Unmeaning marriage, , , , 2018-07-09 22:12:07
Whose values will I embody? On recent politics, St Paul, and Frozen.2018/06/23Personal reflections, Starlight, 2018-06-23 22:28:38
10 uncomfortable realities in Morgan Freeman’s statement on sexual harassment2018/06/05Abuse dynamics, Firelight, , , 2018-06-05 13:15:54
Holding someone by the throat: abusive strangulation or consensual play?2018/05/28BDSM, Moonlight, , 2018-05-28 19:15:22
Love: fire or fruit? Bishop Curry’s sermon was missing a person, IMHO2018/05/24Personal reflections, Starlight, , 2018-05-24 21:38:38
How do I handle non-responses on social media? Yeah, not great.2018/05/17Personal reflections, Starlight2018-05-17 22:14:16
To stay or to go? On church, LGBT+ affirmation, and uncomfortable places2018/04/23Atonement and inclusion, Firelight, Personal reflections, 2018-04-23 20:13:51
O Precious Sight (by Vicky Beeching) – a contemplative video for Good Friday2018/03/30Creative works, Starlight, , 2018-03-30 17:47:28
Priestesses in the church? Why CS Lewis’ argument was right, but his conclusion wrong2018/03/24Firelight, Unmeaning marriage, , 2018-03-24 21:25:28
What exactly is a pledge? Exploring the types of commitment seen in the Bible2018/03/14Bible, Bible worth reading, Sunlight, , 2018-03-14 21:01:06
Crimes against literature: Fifty Shades has 50 novel-writing mistakes (part 3)2018/02/2650 Shades, AmReading, BDSM, Moonlight, , 2018-02-26 21:55:07
Crimes against literature: Fifty Shades has 50 novel-writing mistakes (part 2)2018/02/2050 Shades, AmReading, Moonlight, , 2018-02-20 06:59:05
Crimes against literature: Fifty Shades has 50 novel-writing mistakes (part 1)2018/02/0850 Shades, AmReading, Moonlight, 2018-02-08 20:40:54
More than memories: why I am not afraid of losing our holiday to epilepsy2018/01/22Personal reflections, Starlight, , 2018-01-22 20:08:21
Books of 2017: Titles for those who are looking outside the box2018/01/17AmReading, Delving theology, Starlight, , , , , 2018-01-17 14:26:23
Books of 2017: Titles of interest to theology lovers and Bible students2018/01/03AmReading, Bible, Delving theology, Starlight, , , , 2018-01-03 20:00:15
Books of 2017: Titles of interest to egalitarian Christians2018/01/02AmReading, Delving theology, Starlight, , , , , 2018-01-02 19:53:42
Books of 2017: ‘The Twilight of Cutting’ taught me about more than FGM2018/01/01Abuse dynamics, AmReading, Firelight, , 2018-01-01 19:19:15
45 reasons why the culture behind #ChurchToo fails to understand consent2017/11/28Abuse dynamics, Firelight, , , , , , 2017-11-28 21:10:23
I think I need to grieve – what one year in a DV charity does to you2017/11/19Personal reflections, Starlight, 2017-11-19 15:17:32
Good Gifts for Growing People: A sermon on Romans 12:1-82017/11/11Bible, Delving theology, Starlight, , , 2017-11-11 13:25:08
Always reforming: 95 statements on hope, sexuality and consent2017/10/31Bible, Hope worth sharing, Sex worth celebrating, Sunlight, Virginity, honour and violence, , , , , , , 2017-10-31 22:21:57
I always loved the Torah – and now I feel lied to (a complaint about translation)2017/10/07Bible, Delving theology, Starlight, 2017-10-07 10:40:18
Why purity-as-separation undermines the church’s covenant calling2017/10/02Atonement and inclusion, Bible, Firelight, , , 2017-10-02 08:56:36
A brain-dump about purity: this time, I think I really might change the world2017/09/28Atonement and inclusion, Bible, Firelight, , , 2017-09-28 22:17:49
Modesty 101: Are dress codes helpful or harmful? — Ezer Rising2017/09/07Sex worth celebrating, Sunlight, , , , 2017-09-07 20:50:56
Inside the mental chaos of calling out abuse2017/08/24Personal reflections, Spotlighting, Starlight2017-08-24 21:50:48
Rethinking virginity: yes, it is about purity, but it’s not like a silk scarf2017/07/26Bible, Firelight, Virginity, honour and violence, , , , , 2017-07-26 21:04:01
How can we make church more inclusive spaces for ‘minorities’2017/07/21Delving theology, Starlight, 2017-07-21 21:11:29
My greatest regrets are when I was trying to be someone I’m not2017/07/01Personal reflections, Starlight2017-07-01 18:19:56
An open letter to JK Rowling: nine things I can’t thank you enough for2017/06/30Personal reflections, Starlight, 2017-06-30 14:13:23
Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 5: Hope and love)2017/06/16Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2017-06-16 21:45:15
The Orlando nightclub shooting: a challenge to non-LGBT Christians2017/06/11Atonement and inclusion, Bible, Firelight, 2017-06-11 20:48:09
Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 4: Transformation)2017/05/25Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2017-05-25 21:33:11
Modesty 101: modesty is not about clothes, rather glory and context2017/05/23Bible, Sex worth celebrating, Sunlight, , , 2017-05-23 21:34:53
Gary Thomas’ claim that Christians should have more children is unbiblical2017/05/22Firelight, Unmeaning marriage, , , 2017-05-22 21:24:27
Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 3: Guilt and shame)2017/05/03Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2017-05-03 19:34:30
Resurrection me: tasting future glory2017/04/22Creative works, Starlight, , 2017-04-22 10:03:25
#ThatsHarassment: David Schwimmer makes six short videos showing sexual consent violations2017/04/17Abuse dynamics, Firelight, , , 2017-04-17 14:32:00
Who breaks in and does the washing up? Strange stories and Easter2017/04/15Bible, Hope worth sharing, Sunlight, 2017-04-15 23:58:51
Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 2: Control)2017/04/15Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , 2017-04-15 10:21:35
Beast and Christian Grey: monsters or lovers? (Part 1: Coercion)2017/04/06Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , 2017-04-06 23:43:22
Less was more: my (spoiler-free) review of the live-action Beauty and the Beast2017/03/18Art or licence?, Moonlight, Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2017-03-18 15:13:27
10 things I hope Disney changes from the 1991 Beauty and the Beast2017/03/14Art or licence?, Moonlight, , 2017-03-14 22:21:49
50 Shades of Parody: Monsieur Gaston will see you now2017/03/0950 Shades, Moonlight, 2017-03-09 20:22:41
New profile picture: grey places and the art of Siku2017/02/25Personal reflections, Starlight, WorkTheGreyMatter, , , 2017-02-25 15:01:48
I dated Christian Grey… and I don’t care to see him again2017/02/1650 Shades, BDSM, Moonlight, , , , , , 2017-02-16 19:58:08
Reflections from standing outside the Fifty Shades Darker premiere2017/02/1050 Shades, Personal reflections, Starlight, , , 2017-02-10 21:08:31
Sex and consent: everything I didn’t know when I married2017/02/05Sex worth celebrating, Sunlight, , , , , 2017-02-05 18:06:34
The friend who was always there: on faithfulness, creativity and being me2017/01/22Personal reflections, Starlight, , 2017-01-22 19:19:03
A summary of how redemption in BATB compares with 50 Shades2017/01/03Redemption and Fifty Shades, 2017-01-03 10:38:56
Be a priest in 2017: Identify with those who are like and unlike you2017/01/02Bible, Delving theology, Starlight, 2017-01-02 11:30:15
Revelation 22 for beginners (with illustrations from Harry Potter)2016/12/31Bible, Delving theology, Starlight, 2016-12-31 18:06:50
Fairy-tale vs Erotica: Brides, wives and eternities2016/12/23Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , , 2016-12-23 22:51:55
Gaston vs Jack Hyde: Monsters, mirrors and mercy2016/12/15Redemption and Fifty Shades, 2016-12-15 21:49:56
Their Highnesses vs the Greys: Dreams and egos in the ballroom2016/12/08Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2016-12-08 22:22:21
Beast vs Christian: Control or change? Fixation or surrender?2016/12/01Redemption and Fifty Shades, 2016-12-01 19:46:24
Beast vs Christian: Wealthy givers of gifts and affection2016/11/24Redemption and Fifty Shades2016-11-24 20:02:53
Beast vs Christian: Shame, humiliation, judgement, knowledge.2016/11/17Redemption and Fifty Shades2016-11-17 20:37:36
Beast vs Christian: Rescuer, stalker, or masculinity-in-action?2016/11/10Redemption and Fifty Shades2016-11-10 19:11:24
Serving the marginalised: Glamour and honour in Luke 142016/11/05Bible, Delving theology, Starlight2016-11-05 22:07:38
The Suffering Servant vs Ana: Choice, commitment and consent (part 4)2016/10/27Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2016-10-27 22:59:32
Gollum vs Christian: Choice, commitment and consent (part 3)2016/10/20Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2016-10-20 22:04:13
Biedermann vs Christian: Choice, commitment and consent (part 2)2016/10/13Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , 2016-10-13 22:48:24
Redemption vs Romance: Choice, commitment and consent (part 1)2016/10/06Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , , 2016-10-06 21:49:04
Music, perfection and play: shedding childhood shame2016/10/02Personal reflections, Starlight, 2016-10-02 12:52:54
Beast vs Christian: The dark art of grooming2016/09/30Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , , , 2016-09-30 21:27:56
Maurice vs Ana: Motivated by age, naiveté or love?2016/09/22Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2016-09-22 22:16:02
Belle vs Ana: Privilege of position and identity2016/09/08Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2016-09-08 22:13:25
Belle vs Ana: Two embodiments of redeeming virtue?2016/09/01Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2016-09-01 21:29:20
Beast vs Christian: The Curse of plot-serving entitlement2016/08/25Redemption and Fifty Shades, 2016-08-25 21:50:56
An open letter to Nate Sparks on leaving evangelicalism2016/08/21Atonement and inclusion, Firelight, , 2016-08-21 22:21:54
Beast vs Christian: The Fall that brings guilt and shame2016/08/18Redemption and Fifty Shades, , , 2016-08-18 21:57:36
Redemption is beautiful love, not beastly suffering2016/08/12Redemption and Fifty Shades, , 2016-08-12 21:26:08
Is the One True Love biblical? On hope, choice and responsibility2016/07/21Bible, Hope worth sharing, Sunlight, , , , , , , 2016-07-21 22:01:33
What? A study on Nehemiah? And The Gospel Coalition wrote it?2016/07/09Bible, Personal reflections, Starlight, , , 2016-07-09 10:11:43
My choice in the wake of Orlando and Brexit2016/06/29Bible, Personal reflections, Starlight, , 2016-06-29 20:52:50
Year of Hell, Remember Nothing, & The Wish: lessons on hope2016/05/22Bible, Hope worth sharing, Sunlight, , , 2016-05-22 15:19:44
The key to lifelong sex? Get the right advice.2016/05/19Sex worth celebrating, Sunlight2016-05-19 20:06:57
Welcoming the Holy Spirit2016/05/14Creative works, Starlight, 2016-05-14 14:52:38
The Cedar of Lebanon2016/04/25Creative works, Starlight, 2016-04-25 22:10:25
How 50 Shades reflects real-life abuse in BDSM (part 3)2016/04/1450 Shades, BDSM, Moonlight, , , , , , 2016-04-14 22:56:55
How 50 Shades reflects real-life abuse in BDSM (part 2)2016/04/1150 Shades, BDSM, Moonlight, , , , , , 2016-04-11 19:52:58
How 50 Shades reflects real-life abuse in BDSM (part 1)2016/04/0750 Shades, BDSM, Moonlight, , , , , , 2016-04-07 22:16:44
A real-life rant about “command rape” in the BDSM scene2016/04/07BDSM, Moonlight, , , , 2016-04-07 20:54:27
To the evangelical couple considering sex therapy2016/02/03Sex worth celebrating, Sunlight, , , , , , 2016-02-03 17:42:41
His name is John: Elizabeth writes to Mary2016/01/24Bible, Creative works, Starlight, , 2016-01-24 17:38:01
Esther in the Bible: surprisingly political2016/01/10AmReading, Bible, Bible worth reading, Sunlight, 2016-01-10 16:39:18
On the receiving end of sex – why it’s not just about giving2015/12/20Sex worth celebrating, Sunlight, , , , 2015-12-20 14:25:51
Ruth and Joseph: A closer look at love vs abuse2015/12/06Abuse dynamics, Bible, Firelight, , , , 2015-12-06 17:23:51
Love vs Abuse: a drama sketch about Boaz and Ruth, Joseph and Potiphar’s wife2015/12/06Bible, Creative works, Starlight, , , 2015-12-06 17:21:54
The rebranded blog is here!2015/11/28Starlight, WorkTheGreyMatter2015-11-28 15:28:34
Why do I write about 50 Shades?2015/11/2550 Shades, Moonlight, , 2015-11-25 21:51:21
Why do I write about BDSM?2015/11/24BDSM, Moonlight2015-11-24 21:57:04
Timing out – but not for long I hope2015/10/17Starlight, WorkTheGreyMatter2015-10-17 12:36:07
EL James is Big Brother2015/08/3050 Shades, Moonlight, , 2015-08-30 17:45:29
The Honest 50 Shades trailer: oh so true!2015/06/1450 Shades, Moonlight, , 2015-06-14 17:04:20
About the “steamy action” in 50-Shades-the-film2015/06/1450 Shades, Moonlight, , , , 2015-06-14 17:00:25
What’s bad about “the worst” six slaps?2015/06/1450 Shades, Moonlight, Sex worth celebrating, , , , , , 2015-06-14 16:58:38
7 essential facts about consent2015/05/25BDSM, Moonlight, , , , 2015-05-25 08:05:12
A message to Muslim teens on 50 Shades2015/05/1050 Shades, Moonlight, , , , 2015-05-10 22:03:21
Ana’s spin cycle – the most mundane description ever?2015/04/0850 Shades, AmReading, Moonlight, 2015-04-08 10:25:17
50 Shades of Grey: A Christian(ity) angle on the film2015/04/0550 Shades, Moonlight, , , 2015-04-05 21:43:39
50 Shades of Wannabe2015/03/3150 Shades, Moonlight, , , , 2015-03-31 21:41:56
Christian is creepy like John Travolta. Or have I got it all wrong?2015/03/0850 Shades, Moonlight, , , 2015-03-08 19:31:54
Exercising control in all things2015/02/2250 Shades, Moonlight2015-02-22 17:49:28
Why do people say 50 Shades is (or isn’t) abusive?2015/02/2150 Shades, Moonlight, , , , , 2015-02-21 15:10:13
YesMeansYes: What coercive people look for in a “No”2015/02/17Abuse dynamics, Firelight, , 2015-02-17 07:21:20
Fifty Shades Of Grey London premiere protests: Hot off the press2015/02/12Starlight, WorkTheGreyMatter, 2015-02-12 22:17:01
In a frenzied search for your Mr Grey? Read this. Now.2015/02/10BDSM, Moonlight, , , 2015-02-10 21:49:28
The myth that love cures abuse2015/02/10Abuse dynamics, Firelight, , , 2015-02-10 21:14:08
Telling the difference between kink and abuse2015/02/10BDSM, Moonlight, , , , 2015-02-10 19:45:40
“All consensual?” Jamie, can you REALLY say that?2015/02/0850 Shades, Moonlight, , 2015-02-08 21:46:00
Jenny Trout: 50 Shades and abusive relationships2015/02/0850 Shades, Moonlight, , , , 2015-02-08 16:20:30
Is this really intellectual snobbery?2015/02/0850 Shades, AmReading, Moonlight, 2015-02-08 16:09:37
February 2015: 15 Reasons NOT to watch 50 Shades2015/02/0850 Shades, AmReading, Moonlight2015-02-08 13:23:48
It started as fan-fiction2015/02/0750 Shades, Moonlight, 2015-02-07 20:04:56
A message to S-Types – What you REALLY need to know2015/02/07Moonlight, , , 2015-02-07 15:59:23
Touched like a virgin2015/02/0750 Shades, Moonlight, , , 2015-02-07 15:18:18
Jenny Trout: On defending BDSM with 50 Shades2015/02/0750 Shades, Moonlight, Sex worth celebrating, , , , 2015-02-07 12:07:43
Jenny Trout: An open letter to 50 Shades of Grey fans and ardent defenders2015/02/0750 Shades, BDSM, Moonlight, 2015-02-07 11:33:38
Laci Green on 50 Shades2015/02/0750 Shades, BDSM, Moonlight, , , , , , 2015-02-07 11:10:40
Some anti-fanfic2015/02/0450 Shades, Moonlight, 2015-02-04 21:26:44
Fifty Shades of Frozen – Youtube trailer2015/01/3150 Shades, Moonlight, 2015-01-31 17:17:56
Happy Birthday Website!2015/01/27Starlight, WorkTheGreyMatter2015-01-27 17:48:31